In this 5-Minute Friday episode, Monty and Jeannine explain how unrealistic, unspoken, and rigid personal expectations damage marriages by creating resentment, causing constant disappointment, and promoting impossible standards for a partner to meet. When individuals expect their spouse to be perfect or fulfill all their needs, it leads to conflict and hides the relationship's strength.

Just 5 minutes. One meaningful perspective shift. A better, stronger marriage.

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In this 5-Minute Friday episode, Monty and Jeannine unpack the idea of selfishness in marriage. Selfishness has an underlying issue, and trying to understand the root cause can provide a different perspective and a positive way forward to a healthy marriage.

Just 5 minutes. One meaningful perspective shift. A better, stronger marriage.

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The greatest enemy to marriages is selfishness. Every couple at some point in their marriage will experience some form of selfishness. In this episode of The Favorite Marriage Podcast Monty & Jeannine ask a question every spouse has asked - "Why is my spouse so selfish?" Every couple encounters it at some point, and when it shows up, it can quietly erode connection, trust, and intimacy.

Monty and Jeannine unpack three common root causes of selfishness in marriage:

1. Distorted expectations – when our assumptions about marriage don’t match reality.

2. Hidden resentment – when unresolved hurt begins shaping our behavior.

3. Parental modeling – when the patterns we witnessed growing up influence how we treat our spouse.

But the conversation doesn’t stop with the problem. They also share the powerful antidote to selfishness: Agape love—the kind of selfless, sacrificial love that strengthens marriages and reflects God’s design.

If selfishness has ever crept into your relationship (and it has for all of us), this episode will give you practical insight and biblical encouragement to help you move from self-centered living to Christ-centered loving.

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