The Ethical Affair

This excerpt from "A Guide to Loving Yourself and Getting What You Need as The Mindful Modern Mistress" by a sex and dating coach, discusses the ethics of exploring non-monogamy and the potential for infidelity in relationships. The author argues that while ethical non-monogamy can be successful for some couples, it requires a strong foundation of compersion, which is the ability to feel happy for someone else's success and happiness. She acknowledges that many couples fail at open relationships because they lack the ability to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and navigate underlying issues. The author suggests that infidelity, while often viewed as unethical, can be a mindful and ethical choice if it is carefully considered and executed in a way that minimizes harm to all parties involved. However, she emphasizes that this approach requires a high level of self-awareness, honesty, and communication, as well as careful consideration of the potential impact on both partners.