I thought this would be a good time of year to do an episode on all or nothing thinking. With the new year starting, it's easy to get caught up in goals, resolutions, intentions, etc. And there's nothing at all wrong with that, if it appeals to you.

But I think what sometimes (or often) happens, is that we set goals that are wildly beyond what we're doing now. For example, going from not doing much movement at all to setting the goal of hitting the gym for an hour five times a week. Or going from eating whatever you enjoy to cutting out all carbs or sugar.

And when we don't reach these goals or when we last one or two weeks trying to work toward them, we have parts that feel shame and feel as though we've failed.

In this episode, we're talking about all or nothing thinking from an IFS lens. Specifically, we're discussing:

• All or nothing thinking as a polarization between two parts or groups of parts
• How this polarization tends to play out (i.e. with both sides getting louder and louder and you going back and forth from one side to the other like a tennis match!)
• How to recognize parts within this polarization
• What to do about all of this!

If this sounds like you, take a listen!

I also wanted to let you know that my workbook, Heal Your Love-Hate Relationship with Food: An Intuitive Eating and Internal Family Systems Workbook will be released on March 1 but is now available for preorder! Head here to check it out!

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Email: kdanielspsyd@gmail.com

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In this episode, we're talking about Rebellious Parts. I think most if not all of us have rebellious parts, and those parts could be rebelling in a variety of ways. But since we're focused on food and body concerns, we're going to look at the parts who rebel by eating or by saying "no" to extreme diets and exercise.

Rebellious parts often get a bad rap. They may be binge eating parts or parts who say "fuck it" and eat whatever they want. And then our other parts--who are really concerned about eating well, dieting, and/or losing/maintaining weight--get upset. They see these parts as really destructive. And I do get that. But it's so important that we understand why they're doing it.

In this episode, we're covering:

• What rebellious parts are
• How they come to be
• How they rebel
• What they're rebelling against
• How to address them

I have to say, I love rebellious parts. They're some of my favorite parts! Because they get it. They know that our other parts are dieting and focusing on weight and appearance because someone told them they should. These parts know the game is rigged, and they're just not having it. You gotta respect that!

Sure, they can be angry and stubborn--again, they have good reason!--but they really are trying to help. If this resonates with you, take a listen!

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It's episode 100 of the Emotional Eating (and Everything Else) Podcast--I can't even believe it! And to celebrate, I thought I'd invite two amazing women who I've had the honor of working with come into the show and share their experience with IFS.

Kali and Amanda are two former clients who graciously agreed to talk about their struggles with food and their bodies and how IFS and Intuitive Eating have helped them to heal. They have very different histories and backgrounds, different body types, and different experiences, and I have no doubt that you will resonate with so much of what they share.

In my interview with Kali, we focus on the constant need she felt to change her body due to the pressure from others. She discusses the numerous diets she tried (including the high-protein diet that led her to eat a meat cake for her birthday--yes, you read that correctly), the damage those diets have done, and the fear those programs created. We also discuss the impact of the medical community, food scarcity, and a certain infant part that led her to binge. Kali also shares her journey with IFS--not just in terms of changing her relationship with food and her body, but also in getting to know herself. Indeed, she states, "IFS has changed my relationship with myself entirely."

Amanda's experience is different, as she doesn't recall outside pressure to be thin. Regardless, she was never comfortable in her own skin, and her eating disorder was a way to control her world. She discusses the secrecy involved in her eating disorder, the lack of attention by the medical community, and how the wellness industry sent her spiraling even further. We also talk about what was missing in other types of therapy she tried, and how IFS finally got to the heart of her eating patterns. We end with her sharing that she is finally able to truly feel love for herself: "I'm worth all the work that it takes."

I'm so thankful to Kali and Amanda for sharing their stories with us, and I know you'll hear yourself in some (or a lot) of what they're saying. Take a listen!

Where to find me:

Email: kdanielspsyd@gmail.com

CE Course: Unburdened Bites: Helping Your Clients Heal Their Relationships with Food and Body Using IFS

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