The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Podcast Por Kate Anthony CPCC arte de portada

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

De: Kate Anthony CPCC
Escúchala gratis

On the Divorce Survival Guide Podcast we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go? Hosted by Kate Anthony, your Divorce Survival Guide.©2019-2025 Kate Anthony CPCC, all rights reserved Ciencias Sociales Desarrollo Personal Relaciones Éxito Personal
Episodios
  • Episode 360: Stop Explaining Yourself: Why It Makes High-Conflict Divorce Worse

    Episode 360: Stop Explaining Yourself: Why It Makes High-Conflict Divorce Worse
    Mar 12 2026

    One of the things I see so often with women going through divorce, especially high conflict divorce, is this instinct to explain yourself, to clarify, to defend yourself, to make sure the other person understands what actually happened. But here's the problem: in a high conflict divorce, explaining yourself is often the very thing that keeps you stuck in the conflict. In this episode, I walk you through why the communication playbook that works in healthy relationships completely backfires when you're dealing with a high conflict personality, and what to do instead.

    Here's the thing: high conflict dynamics operate like a fire. Explanations are oxygen. Every time you write a long response or try to defend yourself, you're actually blowing air into the flames. Every explanation keeps you in the engagement. Every defense keeps you in the arena.

    You don't have to keep exhausting yourself trying to explain the truth to someone who has already decided not to hear it. You get to step out of that cycle and you get to move forward with a playbook that actually works in high conflict divorce.

    What you'll hear about in this episode:

    • Why explanations don't resolve conflict in high conflict dynamics, they extend it

    • How your words become fuel: long texts, clarifying emails, and attempts to correct the narrative all give the other person material to twist, screenshot, and weaponize

    • The difference between the explanation mindset and the documentation mindset

    • The BIFF method (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) and how to use it

    • Why silence isn't capitulating and why not every accusation requires a response

    Resources & Links:

    Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist
    Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate
    The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle
    Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
    Kate on Instagram
    Kate on Facebook
    Kate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch
    The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube!
    Seven Step Mindset Reset for Divorce

    ===================

    DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

    ===================
    Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-360-stop-explaining-yourself-why-it-makes-high-conflict-divorce-worse/
    Más Menos
    21 m
  • Episode 359: Assessing High Conflict Divorce Risk with Sarah McDugal

    Episode 359: Assessing High Conflict Divorce Risk with Sarah McDugal
    Mar 5 2026
    Sarah McDugal is back on the podcast, and this time we're talking about what it actually takes to protect your children inside a family court system that often reframes abuse as "mutual high conflict" and makes the protective parent look like the problem. Sarah is a clarity coach and founder of Freedom Navigator and Wilderness to Wild, where she works exclusively with protective parents navigating high-conflict divorce and custody battles. In this conversation, we talk about why the ways most of us instinctively respond—explaining, defending, and trying to get people to understand the truth—can actually work against us in court. We also dive into Sarah's High Conflict Court Risk Index, an assessment designed to help parents understand early how likely their case is to become a long, drawn-out legal battle. The earlier you can see the terrain you're walking into, the more strategically you can move through it. And we talk about the kids. One of the most powerful reframes Sarah offers is that protecting our children doesn't always mean shielding them from harm. Sometimes the greatest protection we can give them is helping them learn how to navigate difficult realities with clarity, resilience, and support. If you're deep in a high-conflict case and feel like everything you do somehow gets used against you, you're not imagining it. The family court system is not what most of us think it is—and fighting it the way we naturally want to can sometimes make things worse. This conversation offers a different playbook. What you'll hear about in this episode: Why what family court labels "high conflict" is very often an abuser-victim dynamic, not a mutual conflict situation (5:28)How you can shift the dynamics in court by changing yourself, not by trying to change the other person or the system (11:10)The High Conflict Court Risk Index, what it assesses, who it is for, and why taking it early means you can start the right conversations sooner (12:28)Why an interdisciplinary divorce team saves you time, money, and unnecessary damage (24:28)What to do when your high conflict court risk comes back moderate to high, and where to go for support (23:30)Why protecting your kids from all harm is not the goal and how to start teaching them to navigate tricky people and tricky situations instead (31:30) ✨ If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here. Learn more about Sarah McDugal:Sarah McDugal is a clarity coach and founder of FREEDOM Navigator and Wilderness to WILD. She works exclusively with protective parents in high-conflict divorce and custody battles. In addition to a master's degree, Sarah holds certifications and training in: Master Certified Professional Coach (MCPC), Certified High Conflict Legal Dispute Resolver, High Conflict Institute, Certified Assessor: Danger and Lethality Assessment, Johns Hopkins University School of Nursing, Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Treatment (DSTT) Training, Dr. Omar Minwalla, and APSATS Model for Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma (MPTM) Training. After surviving nearly a decade of custody litigation herself, Sarah equips her clients with trauma-informed tools, court-ready case prep resources, and strategic battle plans to fight smarter for the long haul — without losing their sanity, their kids, or their voice. Known for her blend of ethical precision and empathetic strength, Sarah empowers protective parents to transform survival into strategy — guiding weary warriors to rise with endurance, resilience, and courage. Resources & Links: Get Your Curated Podcast PlaylistFocused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on InstagramKate on FacebookKate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube! Seven Step Mindset Reset for Divorce High Conflict Court Risk Index Freedom Navigator WebsiteSarah on LinkedIn Sarah on Instagram Sarah on YouTube Episode 109: DSG Abuse Mini-Series: Escaping Toxic Relationships and Abuse in Faith-Based Communities with Sarah McDugal =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM
    Más Menos
    51 m
  • Episode 358: Anger is Not a Communication Issue

    Episode 358: Anger is Not a Communication Issue
    Feb 26 2026
    Let's talk about something that sits at the center of so many of the conversations I have with women: men's rage is not a communication issue. It's a responsibility issue. So many of us are taught to treat anger like something that can be solved with better tools, better timing, or more understanding. Something you can help fix. But when anger creates fear, when it's targeted, when it's tied to entitlement or control, we are no longer talking about miscommunication. We are talking about power. That realization can be destabilizing, even terrifying, because if it were just communication, you could work on it together. But when you find yourself managing someone else's moods, shrinking to avoid escalation, or feeling unsafe expressing yourself, the issue is no longer communication. In this solo episode, you'll learn what it looks like to step back, observe behavior over time, and trust the information your body is giving you. Because until responsibility is taken consistently and independently, nothing changes. What you'll hear about in this episode: How fear signals a power dynamic, not a communication breakdownWhat it means when someone controls their anger everywhere except with youWhy couples therapy requires safety and equality and what happens when those aren't presentThe difference between panic when access is removed and true accountabilityHow to recognize real change through sustained behavior, not short term effortWhy sex during separation can undermine clarityHow underlying beliefs about entitlement, control, and dominance fuel chronic angerThe role financial entanglement plays in keeping people psychologically stuckHow separation becomes a period of observation where behavior, not words, is the dataWhy a calmer nervous system is meaningful information you should not ignore ✨ If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here. Resources & Links: Get Your Curated Podcast PlaylistFocused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on InstagramKate on FacebookKate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube! Seven Step Mindset Reset for Divorce Episode 356: How to Assess Real Change When a Partner Promises Everything =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-358-anger-is-not-a-communication-issue/
    Más Menos
    25 m
Todas las estrellas
Más relevante
I love how knowledgeable and trauma-informed the host and guests are, and how uplifting and holistic the podcast episodes are, without being in any way forced.

The host Kate is wonderful - inspired, sensitive, open and honest.

Se ha producido un error. Vuelve a intentarlo dentro de unos minutos.
I can not recommend this series enough - for women in the middle of the eye of storm in a divorce, for women who need more knowledge and information in a controlling marriage, and heck, even for women who are engaged and set to marry. Knowledge is power, sharing information makes us (women) go further and be more successful. I wish I had access to this BEFORE my married my spouse...
xo

This is the equivalent of a personal floatation device if you feel you are drowning in a rip tide, under current

Se ha producido un error. Vuelve a intentarlo dentro de unos minutos.