Why do we sabotage the things we say we want?Why do we shrink ourselves, hesitate, or pull back right when progress is within reach?In this episode of The Collective, Chance and Shaun sit down with Alana Stott — author, advocate, and speaker — to unpack the mechanics of self-sabotage: where it comes from, why it continues, and how we break the cycle.Together we explore:• Childhood patterns and internalized stories that shape adult behavior• The fear of success — and why it’s more common than fear of failure• Why we mistrust good things when we’ve learned to expect the opposite• How self-sabotage hides inside “being realistic,” “staying humble,” or “not wanting to be a burden”• The disconnect between what we want and what we believe we deserve• What accountability actually looks like — and why awareness alone isn’t enough• How to stop shrinking yourself to make others comfortableThis conversation is raw, honest, and deeply human.If you’ve ever felt stuck, hesitant, or trapped by your own patterns, this episode will help you see the loop clearly — and step out of it.New episodes of The Collective every week.Join us as we learn, build, and grow — together.#TheCollective #SelfSabotage #AlanaStott #Mindset #Growth #TraumaPatterns #PersonalDevelopment #FearOfSuccess

Imitation to Innovation — A Conversation with Isaac Miller & Pat Miller | The CollectiveIn this episode of The Collective, Chance and Shaun sit down with returning guest Isaac Miller (Marine Corps veteran, tech founder) and Pat Miller (Canadian SOF veteran, armourer, and photographer) to explore one of the most fundamental forces behind human progress:Where does imitation end… and true innovation begin?Across two hours of deep conversation, the crew dives into:🔹 Why imitation is the starting point for every skill, craft, or idea🔹 How institutions often kill curiosity — and what it takes to think differently🔹 The tension between creativity, dogma, money, and meaning🔹 Innovation as both a personal journey and a collective responsibility🔹 The courage to be “quirky,” to experiment, and to put novel ideas into the world🔹 How tools like AI and accessible tech democratize invention🔹 What it really means to build something new in a world of copies and recreations🔹 The importance of curiosity, problem-solving, and surrounding yourself with thinkersFrom blacksmiths to 3D printers, from dogma to deep introspection, from personal growth to societal change — this episode is packed with novel wisdom created in real time.If this sparks a thought, drop it in the comments.Like. Subscribe. Share.And stay connected through The Reinforcement Loop, our weekly newsletter.Be better. Think deeper. Innovate boldly.

What does real friendship look like — especially for men who’ve spent their lives in service, leadership, and high-stress environments?In this episode of The Collective, Chance and Shaun sit down with Seb Lavoie and Rob Farrer, two long-serving RCMP members, to explore the deeper layers of friendship: how it forms, how it changes, and why it matters more than most of us admit.This conversation goes far beyond “having buddies.”We dig into:The difference between proximity friendships and chosen friendshipsWhy trust is built in small, consistent repsEmotional bandwidth — and why we’re selective about who gets accessHow vulnerability affects connection (and why it’s not the same as oversharing)Male friendship patterns: loyalty, silence, and the pressure to “be fine”Attachment styles, safety, and the hidden rules we bring into relationshipsWhy intimacy isn’t exclusively romantic — it’s humanSeb and Rob share candid stories from policing, team environments, and personal life, revealing how friendship anchors identity, provides accountability, and shapes our emotional landscape.If you’ve ever struggled to connect, outgrown old friendships, or wondered why some relationships feel effortless while others drain you — this episode offers the clarity, honesty, and depth you’ve been looking for.Welcome to The Collective — where conversations build better humans.#TheCollective #Friendship #SebLavoie #RobFarrer #RCMP #Brotherhood #Connection #Mindset #EmotionalIntelligence #MenTalking