Some people wait for the perfect moment… others start building with whatever they have.

In this episode, we sit down with Angel, owner of Benton Brew Coffee House, a creator, entrepreneur, and visionary who turned a 20-year dream into a real space for connection, creativity, and community.

This conversation dives into what it actually looks like to choose yourself while still working a 9–5, balancing responsibilities, and investing into your vision daily. From selling magazines as a kid to creating studios, coffee lounges, and creative spaces, Angel shows that success isn’t about one big moment.. it’s about stacking checkpoints, discipline, and belief over time.

We talk about the importance of routine, presence, and awareness, from something as simple as drinking water in the morning to being intentional with your time, your energy, and even how you eat because building your dream isn’t just about business… it’s about becoming someone who can sustain it.

Takeaways ⬇️

• Your dream doesn’t require you to quit everything, it requires you to use what you have wisely
• There isn’t always one “trigger point” ..growth is built through consistent checkpoints
• Presence is power! Whether in your work, your meals, or your relationships
• Your foundation (routines, discipline, awareness) determines your future
• You don’t need to know how you’ll get there but you must believe where you’re going

At some point, you have to decide… Are you going to keep consuming life or start creating something from it?

Your dream isn’t waiting on time… it’s waiting on you.

Some people go through trauma and stay stuck… others go through it and build something from it.

In this episode, we sit down with Tree Kadayso - a powerful self-chooser, mother, and leader in the CYC who shares how her story of childhood trauma, abuse, and environmental challenges didn’t define her… it refined her.

This conversation goes deep into what it really looks like to face your triggers, change your environment, and build a foundation strong enough to carry not just you but your family forward. From navigating generational patterns to raising kids with awareness, Tree shows that healing isn’t just personal… it’s legacy work.

We talk about the moments where it would’ve been easier to fall back into old habits and how choosing yourself daily, through discipline and community, creates a completely different future.. because at the end of the day, your past may shape you but your choices define you.

Takeaways ⬇️

• Your trauma is real but it doesn’t get to run your life forever
• Awareness is the first step but action is what changes everything
• Your environment can either trap you or transform you
• The foundation you build today impacts your entire family tomorrow
• Choosing yourself is how you break generational cycles

At some point, we all have to make a decision… Are we going to keep living from what happened to us or start building from who we’re becoming?

Our story isn’t our limitation… it’s our responsibility.

“You’re not your past… you’re your patterns ... and your patterns can change with you next choice.”

Grow With Us ⬇️

🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.)

❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar

🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat

📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen

🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

Choosing yourself through trauma, triggers, and transformation

Nobody signs up for trauma… not you, not me, not your baby mama. But we all go through something. The real question is what are you doing with it?

In this preview, we talk about how pain can either keep you stuck or push you into your next level. From childhood abuse to self-abuse (yeah… hitting snooze, sugar overload, late-night cravings .. we see you), this episode calls out the habits that keep us in the same loop because it’s not just what happened to you… it’s what you keep doing to yourself after.

We introduce Tree Kadayso one of the strongest OG self-choosers I've ever encountered, whose story comes from real adversity - abuse, loss, traumatic childhood and a toxic environment where silence was normalized... but instead of staying in victim mode, she embraced the TEFIC process: triggers, environment, foundation, investment, and contribution and turned her pain into purpose!

Your past might not be our fault… but our future is 100% your responsibility.

So are you still sitting in the same story or are you ready to evolve?

Grow With Us ⬇️

🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.)

❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar

🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat

📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen

🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel