The Blueprint & The Mundane

In this episode we’re talking about moving from 'Passive Spectator' to 'Lead Architect.' We are diving into a movement that treats fatherhood with the same level of intentionality as a high-stakes professional venture. We will explore how to close the 'engagement gap' and build a relationship with our children that is rooted in more than just shared DNA.Joining us is Jon Hord, the founder of The Engaged Father Project. Jon is on a mission to help men reclaim their place at the center of their families, providing the tools and the blueprints necessary to build a lasting legacy.To learn more about The Engaged Father Project or get coaching visit: https://theengagedfatherproject.com/Join me, Jon and The Engaged Fatherhood Project community on school at: https://www.skool.com/the-engaged-father-project-9143/aboutSpecial thanks to Smile Online Course & Books for sponsoring this episode. To learn more visit: https://thefatherhoodchallenge--smileteenskills.thrivecart.com/social-career-skills-accelerator/Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastrhttps://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge00:06.52Jonathan GuerreroIn the world of business, we wouldn't dream of launching a major initiative without a blueprint, a strategy, and a dedicated team. We track our metrics. We pivot when things aren't working and we stay engaged until the project is a success.00:22.04Jonathan GuerreroBut for many of us, when we walk through our own front doors at the end of a long day, we go on autopilot. We become present absent dads physically in the room, but mentally we're elsewhere.00:36.82Jonathan GuerreroWe've mastered the art of being a provider, but we've forgotten the art of being a participant. Fatherhood isn't something that should just happen to us. It's a role that requires our best thinking, our highest energy, and a relentless commitment to showing up, not just for the big moments, but for the messy, quiet, and mundane ones in between.00:59.83Jonathan GuerreroToday, we're talking about moving from a passive spectator to a lead architect. We are diving into a movement into a movement that treats fatherhood with the same level of intentionality as high-stakes professional ventures.01:15.26Jonathan GuerreroWe will explore how the engagement gap, we will explore the engagement gap and build a relationship with our children that is rooted in more than just shared DNA. And we're going to explore all of this in just a moment, so don't go anywhere.01:31.88Jonathan GuerreroGreetings, everyone. Thank you so much for joining me. Thank you so much for joining me. And also joining us is John Horde. John is the founder of the Engage Father Project.01:42.74Jonathan GuerreroJohn is on a mission to help men reclaim their place at the center of their families, providing the tools and the blueprints necessary to build a lasting legacy.01:53.46Jonathan GuerreroJohn, welcome to the Fatherhood Challenge.01:55.99Jon Hordah Thank you so much for having me on, Jonathan. I do appreciate it.02:00.28Jonathan GuerreroJohn, i got to ask, what is your favorite dad joke?02:06.20Jon Hordum Okay, here goes. What do you call a fish that wears bow tie?02:12.69Jonathan GuerreroWhat do you call a fish that wears a bow ti I've never heard this one.02:18.03Jon HordSophisticated. Okay.02:19.77Jonathan Guerrerolove this one.02:23.99Jonathan Guerrerolove this one02:30.78Jonathan GuerreroSo good.02:31.86Jon HordYeah.02:33.73Jonathan GuerreroNow I got to share this one with my son.02:38.01Jonathan GuerreroWell, John, what is the story behind why and how you started the Engage Father Project?02:46.58Jon HordWell, i i worked um in a corporate job for about 20 years. It was like 18 and a half years. And I was on this path that so many people are familiar with, right? It was sort of that American dream path. you know Go to school and get good grades and go to college and get a job and make a good living, start a family, get promoted,03:11.77Jon Hordmake as much money as you can and then retire. Right. It was that it was on that track and, you know, had some kids, two kids along the way. And I got to a point where, you know, the material boxes were being checked. Right.03:30.74Jon HordAnd it was like, well, I should feel really happy and fulfilled, right? Because I've been working for so long to get to this point. It was like I was running toward a finish line or like, you know, running on a rainbow looking for that pot of gold. And I got to the end where it's like, well, it should be here, right?03:49.08Jon HordAnd not only was it not there, But my life was filled with more stress and more anxiety than I'd ever been experiencing. And it was significantly affecting, you know, not only me, but my ability to be the husband that I wanted to be for my wife and the father that I wanted to be for my kids. And so it was this really painful and jarring experience.04:16.54Jon Hordmoment or really I refer to it now as an opportunity as hard as it was i wouldn't give that ...