Queen, let's talk about the elephant in the room: that exhausting dance you're doing in your relationship where you're solving his problems before he even names them, managing his emotions while yours get pushed aside, and wondering why love feels like a second job. If you're tired of performing for love instead of receiving it, this episode is your wake-up call.

It's time to stop auditioning for partnership and start demanding the real thing. Because what society calls "devotion" is actually just patriarchy in a hoodie—and your nervous system is paying the price.

What You'll Learn

• Discover how "overfunctioning" elevates cortisol and creates adrenal fatigue in your body

• Recognize performance partnership vs. true partnership—and why one is just patriarchy in disguise

• Transform your understanding of safety: why regulating his emotions will never regulate yours

• Notice how overfunctioning prevents your partner from developing emotional accountability

• Shift from emotional babysitting to creating space for genuine co-regulation

Why It Matters

High-achieving Black women are conditioned to carry everyone's emotional weight—and it's literally breaking down our bodies. This pattern of self-abandonment doesn't just show up in romantic relationships; it's how we operate with bosses, children, and friends. Breaking free from performance partnership is about reclaiming your worth, your energy, and your right to be fully supported instead of always being the one doing the supporting.

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Queen, let's talk about the mindfuck breakup that's been keeping you stuck—the one with Mr. "Perfect on Paper" who left your soul starved despite checking every box society told you mattered. You know the type: well-dressed, well-traveled, well-paid, and wildly unavailable emotionally. This episode is your permission slip to finally name what you've been feeling and stop gaslighting yourself into believing something was wrong with you.

It's time to get the closure you didn't get and claim the healing you absolutely deserve. Because when perfection masks a project, high-achieving Black women like you end up performing emotional triage instead of experiencing real partnership—and that ends today.

What You'll Learn

• Discover why your nervous system was screaming "something's off" even when everyone else thought you hit the jackpot.

• Reclaim your reality by learning to identify "high presentation, low intimacy" men who look like prizes but function like emotional projects

• Transform the cognitive dissonance that keeps you ruminating by naming the real problem: you weren't dating a high-value man, you were managing an undercover emotional fixer-upper.

• Shift from self-blame to self-empowerment.

• Notice how societal programming taught you to override your instincts and perform "low maintenance" just to keep the peace.

• Repair what got damaged in the process: your trust in yourself, your joy, your hope, and your ability to love without shrinking.

This isn't just about one relationship—it's about breaking the cycle of self-abandonment that keeps high-achieving Black women trapped in situations that look good on paper but leave us emotionally starved. When you've been conditioned to prove your worthiness of love, your nervous system starts mistaking anxiety for attraction.

Take Action

Take my free quiz to discover how your nervous system and survival patterns may be blocking your clarity:

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Queen, let's talk about the confusion that nobody prepared you for: when your high-value man checks every box society told you mattered, but your nervous system is screaming that something ain't right. You're not crazy, and you're not asking for too much—you're just dealing with an emotional project disguised in designer suits and six-figure success.

In this episode, I'm breaking down why status doesn't equal safety and how to stop carrying the invisible emotional load that's draining your peace. It's time to trust your instincts and reclaim your power.

What You'll Learn

• Discover the five clear signs that your successful man is actually an emotional project in disguise
• Shift your understanding of what "high value" really means beyond bank accounts and status symbols
• Notice how cognitive dissonance shows up when someone looks like a catch but feels like chaos
• Reclaim your self-trust by understanding that asking for your needs wasn't "too much"—it was necessary
• Transform your approach to relationships by recognizing emotional availability as the true flex

Why It Matters

This conversation addresses what so many high-achieving black women experience but rarely discuss—the psychological confusion that leaves you questioning everything about yourself. We've been conditioned to endure instead of express, especially when society celebrates our "good man." Through mindset coaching and understanding neurobiology, I'm here to empower you to stop diminishing yourself and break free from self-abandonment patterns. Your peace isn't negotiable.

Take Action

Take my free quiz to discover how your nervous system and survival patterns may be blocking your clarity:

👉🏾 brigjohnson.com/stress-quiz

RESOURCES

• Join my Newsletter, Unlearn and Unleash
• Share Your Takeaways With Me at brig@brigjohnson.com
• Stress Quiz