Some people don’t need any kind of external motivation to exercise. They’re in a routine, and their day feels chaotic when they don’t do physical activity.

But the vast majority of men, especially men over the age of 40, need a little pick-me-up from an outside source every now and then. And that’s where having a fitness community can be the difference between achieving your goals and giving up.

And you know what?

The external motivation provided by a fitness community is only one benefit… and it might not even be the most important benefit either.

In this week’s show, MFY Coach & Community Manager, Jesse Lee, joins me to share some of the other overlooked benefits a fitness community can have. Jesse’s been “in the trenches” of the Man Flow Yoga Community Facebook Group since 2019 - so he’s seen it all.

Here’s what Jesse and I share in this episode:

• The weird way a fitness community improves your “limbic system motivation”

• Common mistakes men make when communicating with other men that can derail your fitness momentum

• The most overlooked benefits of community particularly for men

And more.

Other highlights include:

• The incredibly helpful, but severely neglected “Normalization” technique that helps men alleviate stress and overcome tough problems (5:46)

• How to outsource some of the burden of working out to other people (and the weird way this makes you more consistent) (10:17)

• Coach Patrick’s Jedi mindset trick that instantly helps you reframe negativity into an empowering sense of positivity (16:17)

• The “limbic system motivation” secret of fitness communities (21:13)

• Why creating distance from your emotions instead of talking through them can actually help you recover faster from ruminating thoughts (26:21)

• The most refreshing sentence you can tell yourself when you're dealing with tough emotions (29:23)

• Simple ways to incorporate more exercise into your morning (and why this is a cheat code for consistency) (38:11)

Listen now!

Resources mentioned on this episode:

1. Subscribe to the We Got Balls Podcast hosted by Scott and Chris on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@WeGotBallsPod

2. Buy Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer (the book mentioned in this episode) on Amazon here: https://amzn.to/3QRkif2

Other important links:

Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H

Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

When you want to be a better man, there are an endless number of routes you can go down: Exercise, relationships, personal development, mental health, and the list goes on.

And yet, there’s one route that’s so dark and gloomy and lonely that it never even crosses the minds of most men: Your sexual story.

That’s why I invited Scott and Chris from the We Got Balls Podcast back onto today’s episode.

Thinking about, addressing, and then owning your sexual story is not easy. In fact, it’s one of the most difficult challenges you’ll ever face.

But you know what?

We all have sexual stories. Some are wicked and involve sexual abuse. Others are mild and involve more silence than anything. But all of them create shame. And this shame, while you may be able to handle it most of the time, can disrupt your relationships, butcher your confidence, and blossom into addiction. Especially when it’s stacked upon the stresses of everyday life.

This is not an easy episode to listen to. Scott in particular shares the ins and outs of his dark sexual story (spoiler: it involves sexual abuse).

But if you’re struggling with addressing and owning (or even remembering) your sexual story, I encourage you to listen to the entire show. You’re not alone. And every man deals with their own sexual story which creates the shame cycle many find themselves trapped in without understanding why.

Here’s what Scott and Chris share in this episode:

• Why you must engage your story if you want to get rid of the shame

• How your family dynamics create the script for your sexual story

• How to heal your sexual brokeness

And more.

Other highlights include:

• Why do men have so much shame around their sexual story (and how to overcome it) (2:16)

• How being open about your sexual story can prevent an affair, divorce, and heartbreak (4:05)

• The weird way sexual abuse and emotional disruption gets passed down through generations (even if you don’t have any personal experience with it) (6:15)

• The “Engage Your Story” secret for changing the meaning you’ve ascribed to traumatic situations so they don’t haunt you anymore (14:08)

• How to have healthy sexuality that you can sustain long-term (and why it’s such a hard conversation for men) (18:28)

• Here’s why 38% of sexual abuse victims don’t remember it (even if it’s been documented by third parties) (23:13)

• Why addiction, no matter what kind of addiction, is the go-to solution for men to cover up deep, subconscious pain (26:21)

• How recovery groups pile on shame instead of alleviating it (and why having a kind friend can make recovery easier and more effective) (29:17)

Listen now!

Resources mentioned on this episode:

1. Subscribe to the We Got Balls Podcast hosted by Scott and Chris on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@WeGotBallsPod

2. Buy Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer (the book mentioned in this episode) on Amazon here: https://amzn.to/3QRkif2

Other important links:

Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H

Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

A lot of people think they’re too old, too overweight, or too stressed to take their first step on their fitness journey.

But as today’s guest, Matt, so eloquently stated in the episode, if you don’t start today, you’re going to be that much older when you do start. Since we only get one shot of this game of life, why not start today?

And you know what?

That’s exactly what Matt did a decade ago. When he realized he couldn’t fit the airplane seatbelt over his body, he decided to make the simplest of changes:

He walked three quarters of a mile to Subway for a sub instead of driving. While this decision seems tiny, it was massive in hindsight.

Ever since that Subway walk, Matt dropped 50 pounds, started jogging, then cycling, then running 5ks, then half-marathons and marathons. And today, he’s completed a half-marathon or century bike race in 32 states (and plans to finish one in all 50 states by the time he turns 50).

No matter your age or what stage of your fitness journey you’re on, Matt’s episode will give you a dose of inspiration to conquer your next workout.

Here’s what Matt and I discuss on today’s episode:

• Why tiny decisions can lead to significant changes (without overwhelm, burnout, or injuries)

• Simple mindset tweaks that will help you finally take your fitness seriously

• The trick for permanently conquering any kind of bodily pain

And more, including…

• How Adam dropped 50 pounds by doing these 3 simple things that anyone can start doing (3:25)

• Have you ever ended up in urgent care from lower back pain? Here’s how Adam conquered his back pain for good (he’s had zero instances of back or knee pain in the past 18 months!) (5:31)

• Why Apple Fitness yoga pales in comparison to Man Flow Yoga (13:08)

• How outsourcing accountability to a community makes your weight loss journey less daunting, less overwhelming, and easier to stick with (even if you haven’t noticed results yet) (21:21)

• The “Reframe Your Age” secret for setting new PRs as you grow older (23:58)

• The weird way a Man Flow Yoga habit will help you get over “gymtimidation” (28:30)

• How to stop your mind from procrastinating on your fitness once and for all with the “put your shoes on” mindset shift (34:12)

Listen now!

Resources mentioned on this episode:

Strength Foundation Challenge: If you want to follow in Matt’s footsteps (literally), he started his Man Flow Yoga journey with the Strength Foundation Challenge - and you can too here: https://manflowyoga.com/strength_challenge-2/

Other important links:

Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner’s Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7

Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7