The Anxious Avoidant Trap Is Working Exactly As Designed

Work with me 1-on-1: https://www.stumurray.com/coaching-applyWhy does every argument feel like you're speaking different languages?In anxious-avoidant relationships, both partners feel abandoned at the exact same time, in completely opposite ways. One feels abandoned by lack of presence. The other feels abandoned by lack of freedom. Same moment. Opposite experiences.That's why "just communicate better" doesn't work. You're not even having the same conversation.In this video, I break down:→ Why it feels like you're speaking different languages (and why it's not a communication problem)→ The pursue-withdraw loop that destroys intimacy (step by step)→ Why understanding your attachment style hasn't been enough to stop the pattern→ The 3 levels where this pattern actually lives (and why insight alone doesn't fix it)This isn't surface-level attachment advice. If you've read the books, taken the quizzes, and you're still stuck in the same cycle, this video shows you what's actually happening underneath.⏱️ TIMESTAMPS:0:00 - The thing nobody talks about0:25 - Why it feels like different languages2:10 - How the loop destroys connection6:10 - Why you can't stop (even when you see it)9:10 - What actually changes the pattern📌 NEXT VIDEO: How to break the loop with your partner. The conversation to have BEFORE you're triggered, and what to do in the moment when one of you starts to spiral. [Link when published]---#anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #attachmentstyles #relationshipadvice #anxiousavoidant The Anxious Avoidant Trap Is Working Exactly As Designed