What do you do when you're convinced you've heard from God—and everything falls apart? In this episode, Spencer and Sammi Robbins share stories of confusing dreams, missed signals, and the longing for divine direction that so often leads us into pain or shame. They unpack the subtle ways our desires and fears can shape what we think God is saying, and why it's so important to hold space for uncertainty, humility, and curiosity in our relationship with Him. Instead of formulas or guarantees, discover a grace-centered approach to hearing God's voice—one that's rooted in intimacy, not control. Whether you're wrestling with disappointment, searching for clarity, or simply longing to connect with God in a real way, you'll find hope, wisdom, and practical tools for your journey here.

Chapters & Timestamps
00:00 Introduction & the longing to hear God
03:45 Sammy's stories of God, desire, and confusion
21:40 Disappointment and shame: when you think you missed it
28:03 Taking risks, risking failure, and the heart-lifting shift
36:35 Direction vs. intimacy: what matters more
49:16 How certainty (and desperation) can become its own idol
59:41 Learning to rest in mystery, humility, and connection

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Out of margin? Whether you're navigating a new baby, a demanding job, a strained relationship, grief, or a big transition, this conversation gives you practical ways to stay grounded when life won't slow down. We share Romi's birth story and the grief that unexpectedly opened the door to peace, unpack why people "borrow" each other's nervous systems, and walk through simple, repeatable practices to regulate in real time—without perfection or spiritual jargon.

Who This Is For (and Why It Helps)

• Parents and caregivers feeling stretched thin and reactive—learn how to co-regulate and repair.

• Singles and married couples without kids facing career pressure, loneliness, or change—use micro-practices to steady your inner world.

• Leaders, pastors, and coaches who carry others' emotions—discover how presence resets a room better than control.

• Anyone in transition or grief—see why honest sorrow can become the doorway to peace rather than a detour.

You'll walk away with language for what's happening in your body, a kinder way to meet your triggers, and small steps that create real change.

What You'll Learn

• How grief can make space for breakthrough (Romi's story)

• The pain–fear–tension loop and how to break it

• "Borrowed nervous systems": why your presence matters more than perfect words

• A clarifying question that transforms reactivity: "Why does this bother me?"

• Zero-margin tools: two breaths + one sentence, name the wave, orient to good, rhythm over rules, repair over perfection

Chapters & Timestamps
00:00 When life feels unmanageable (why margin matters)
03:20 Grieving what's ending and how it made room (Romi's birth)
10:10 Pain–fear–tension: what bracing does to your body
16:45 Borrowed nervous systems: presence over control
23:00 The belief beneath the reaction: "Why does this bother me?"
31:15 Micro-practices for zero-margin moments (step-by-step)
38:00 Being parented by God so we can lead from peace

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EPISODE SUMMARY

Navigating the intricacies of relationships has been a journey of growth and understanding for us. Initially, the contrast between Spencer's love for stability and my craving for spontaneity seemed insurmountable. Yet, it was through embracing these differences that we discovered a deeper connection. Join us as we recount personal stories from our marriage, showcasing how embracing each other's passions enriched our lives, and why identical interests aren't a prerequisite for meaningful connections.

As we transitioned from the honeymoon phase to a more mature relationship, challenges inevitably arose. From balancing Spencer's focus on a stable future with my desire for adventure, to addressing unmet needs and differing priorities, our marriage has seen its fair share of struggles. Through open communication and mutual understanding, we've tackled issues of humor, attraction, and perceived rejection, navigating the complex journey of aligning our individual identities within our partnership. Our experiences underscore the importance of independence and self-fulfillment, allowing us to appreciate personal growth within the marriage.

Marriage, for us, has been a vehicle for personal growth rather than just fulfilling personal preferences. We've learned the value of supporting each other's desires while maintaining our independence, fostering a connected yet secure partnership. By tackling personal triggers and emotions, we emphasize the importance of character and resilience in sustaining relationships. Our episode encourages listeners to explore their own triggers and embrace a higher power to meet their needs, fostering love and connection in their relationships.

EPISODE CHAPTERS

(0:00:00) - Navigating Differences in Relationships

(0:12:55) - Navigating Challenges in Marriage

(0:20:54) - Navigating Growth and Unity in Marriage

(0:30:07) - Navigating Relationships Through Growth and Connection

(0:36:42) - Supporting Free Content Through Sharing

EPISODE CHAPTERS WITH SHORT KEY POINTS

(0:00:00) - Navigating Differences in Relationships

Relationship dynamics, embracing differences, and misconceptions about compatibility in genuine connections.

(0:12:55) - Navigating Challenges in Marriage

Evolution of a relationship from infatuation to married life, navigating differences, challenges, and struggles with identity within the marriage.

(0:20:54) - Navigating Growth and Unity in Marriage

Independence, communication, and mutual understanding are crucial for a fulfilling marriage, as discussed through personal experiences and parental triggers.

(0:30:07) - Navigating Relationships Through Growth and Connection

Embracing love and openness in relationships for personal growth, character, and resilience, relying on a higher power.

(0:36:42) - Supporting Free Content Through Sharing

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