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That's Where I'm At

De: Laura Richards
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  • Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Join Laura Richards, a survivor of narcissistic abuse with 33 years experience, as she guides you through the journey of identifying, healing from, and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse. With a mission to raise awareness, foster emotional recovery, and empower you to love yourself, Laura brings honesty, compassion, and a touch of humor to every episode. Dive into deep, meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics, and uncover moments of hope and healing. Our supportive community is here for you, offering insights, support, and a shared path to recovery and empowerment. Subscribe now and be part of a transformative journey that’s messy, real, and truly inspiring!
    2023
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  • Healing Loudly: Escaping the Grip of Narcissistic Parents and Finding Emotional Freedom with Jessica

    Healing Loudly: Escaping the Grip of Narcissistic Parents and Finding Emotional Freedom with Jessica
    Jun 12 2024
    In this episode, I’m joined by Jessica Kazaniwskyj, who had two narcissistic parents (one of which was also an alcoholic). She used her determination to escape their grasp and divorced them when she was sixteen. However, like many raised in that environment, she then found herself under the grasp of a man with similar qualities. She was with him for over fifteen years, even marrying him despite the red flags. Through years of healing and endless curiosity about why she felt the way she felt and wanting to break these patterns desperately, she finally found the courage to walk away from her marriage. Shortly after, she met her current husband, who was everything she had requested. Jessica's journey led her to become an empowerment life coach who specializes in childhood trauma, as so often we repeat those patterns into adulthood. She's an avid reader in her spare time, loves movies and documentaries, and is a die-hard Notre Dame football and Chicago Cubs fan. Today, Jessica shares her compelling story of overcoming a tumultuous childhood, enduring toxic relationships, and breaking free from narcissistic abuse. Jessica's journey involves resilience, self-discovery, and embracing vulnerability. She talks about her journey of healing and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship. Jessica shares insights on recognizing red flags, understanding trauma bonds, and healing loudly to help others suffering in silence. Tune in to hear Jessica’s views on healing, accountability, and the path to emotional freedom. Timestamps [02:45] How Jessica decided to become a life coach [05:15] Jessica's childhood and her emancipation [12:00] Jessica's college and financial aid challenges as an emancipated minor [14:25] Strained relationship with her father after emancipation [17:03] Jessica's feelings about her abusive mother's cancer diagnosis [19:54] Red flags in Jessica’s first marriage and being isolated [31:24] Challenges of keeping a clean home with an indifferent partner [34:00] The trauma of the pandemic and personal loss [35:02] Emotional neglect and the end of Jessica’s marriage [36:34] Why Jessica remained with her husband for 15 years [41:41] How emotional toll led to Jessica's divorce [45:05] How Jessica met her new husband [58:28] Faking it till you make it and positive self-talk [01:06:49] Feeling happier and glowing after healing Notable Quotes The thing that's gonna set you free is being vulnerable. Telling you narcissists don't have that ability because of the vulnerability. You have to be emotionally intelligent to be vulnerable.If something's not working, dive in deeper. I'm gonna heal loudly because there's too many people dying quietlywhen you're actually fed up is when you'll actually say, you know what, this is the work I need to do, and do it.You're not crazy. They want you to think you're crazy, but you're not crazy. And you can get better, but there is an element of personal responsibility. You are pulling these people to you, so you have to fix that part of yourself. RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW JESSICA: https://linktr.ee/kazaniwskyjcoaching
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    1 h y 9 m
  • Let's Get Your Shift Together: Adriana's Story of Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse

    Let's Get Your Shift Together: Adriana's Story of Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse
    May 29 2024
    In this episode, I'm joined by Adriana Bucci, founder of Let's Get Your Shift Together. Having faced nearly three decades of narcissistic abuse and four years of severe chronic pain, Adriana made the courageous decision to embark on her healing journey. Through inner work, she not only found relief from physical suffering but also addressed the deep wounds inflicted by narcissistic upbringing, toxic relationships, and challenging work environments. Inspired by her journey, Adriana became a life coach, aiming to empower survivors of narcissistic abuse to heal, establish boundaries, and reclaim their lives on their terms. Today, Adriana shares her journey of escaping an abusive relationship with her narcissistic mother. She recounts the manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional turmoil she endured and how she ultimately found the strength to break free and embark on a path of healing.
    Join the conversation now for this and many more!
     Timestamps

    [01:08] Adriana’s background

    [02:22] How chronic pain got Adriana to what she is doing now

    [06:13] Adriana's openness to exploring new health solutions

    [12:31] Adriana's traumatic childhood with a narcissistic mother

    [16:40] How Adriana took control of her finances while in university

    [20:00] How Adriana’s mother guilt-tripped her into moving back home

    [21:32] How narcissists often display conflicting desires

    [26:19] Why couples counseling with a narcissist is the worst thing

    [29:21] Adriana's path to healing and embracing healthy boundaries and forgiveness

    [32:13] The journey of self-discovery and recognizing toxic relationships

    [34:24] The incident that prompted Adriana to finally move out

    [45:41] Discovering the truth about her father and the child support trust

    [01:02:07] Adriana’s mixed emotions upon learning about her mother's declining health

    [01:05:18] Adriana's healing journey and moving forward after her mother's passing

    Quotes
    • Narcissist manipulates their counselors and therapists. That's why, like couples counseling with a narcissist is the worst thing you can do.
    • It doesn't mean that when your abuser dies, you're gonna be relieved and happy. You are gonna go through that rollercoaster, but it's okay to feel that relief.
    • I got the idea one day because I was about 22 years old at this point. And I was like, hold on, I am over the age of 18, I am legally an adult. Nothing is stopping me from walking into a bank and getting my bank account. So I did that.
    • There's a difference between being a loving mom and being a little bit overbearing versus just full-out sabotaging them.
    • People who are uncomfortable with the word narcissist will just use the word toxic. But at the end of the day, a toxic person is still abusing you and not, you know, treating you properly.
    • When people use the word narcissist, it's not the diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder because you have to understand they're not gonna go to therapy. They're not gonna think to themselves.
    • Just because you have family doesn't mean you have to allow them to treat you the way they treat you. So it's, it's something really to consider, that's for sure.
    Resources

    FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

    RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources

    BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

    FOLLOW ADRIANA:

    HER WEBSITE: https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com

    GROUP COACHING PROGRAM: https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/bulletproofprogram
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    1 h y 10 m
  • Unpacking Toxic Shame: A Journey to Vibrant Living with Emily

    Unpacking Toxic Shame: A Journey to Vibrant Living with Emily
    May 15 2024
    In this episode, I’m joined by Emily who shares her powerful journey of discovering and healing from toxic shame that stemmed from her childhood. She opens up about the invalidating messages she received growing up that made her feelings feel taboo and shameful. Emily discusses hitting rock bottom despite being a believer, feeling weighed down and like her world was gray. Her turning point came when she went through a program called Regeneration (Celebrate Recovery) that helped her unpack her toxic shame. Emily vividly describes the transformation she experienced, where her world went from gray to vibrant colors and she could finally laugh out loud and celebrate herself. She also explains key lessons like the difference between healthy guilt that provides a warning system, and toxic shame that makes you feel subhuman. Tune in and discover the hope that comes from knowing freedom from toxic shame is achievable! Timestamps: [01:53] Emily's background and journey [02:46] Significance of recognizing and addressing toxic shame [06:44] The pervasive influence of toxic shame, stemming from family and society [10:18] The importance of listening to one’s feelings and intuition [15:07] Emily’s reflection on her struggle with self-abandonment [19:14] Finding Regeneration (Celebrate Recovery) program [25:45] How Emily discovered her ability to express joy and celebrate herself [29:57] The difference between guilt and toxic shame [32:36] How guilt is a helpful warning, while shame sends you into a "deep dark place" [35:00] The interaction of admiration, emotional hurdles, and personal insecurities in relationships [40:00] Guidance for healing after divorce [44:39] Value of establishing boundaries to prevent pent-up frustration or resentment [51:10] Embracing discomfort and building resilience [59:52] Emily's growth and progress in her healing journey [01:10:20] Strategies for setting boundaries Quotes: Feelings were just kind of taboo. It wasn't like anyone ever said don't feel. But I kind of learn. But when I feel I get in trouble for feeling.I was a people pleaser, I was a chameleon. I just kind of like evolved into whatever I felt like wouldn't get me attacked or criticized or shamed.So you know, if you like kind of feel that sense of like, oh yeah, like I wanna hide because I just did something I know I'm not supposed to do. Yeah. That's that shame.I remember having conversations with my mom where I wasn't getting frustrated and I wasn't getting impatient. Like no matter what was happening, it was just like flowing off of me.Shame means like I am bad. Okay. Versus guilt. Like, oops, I did something bad.That guilt is then a warning to tell you like, okay, well now next time I know I need to prepare. RESOURCES: FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards FOLLOW EMILY: Emily’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/emily.ehe.5 Emily’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyraecreationsandmore/ Emily’s Info: https://msha.ke/emilyraecreations Emily’s books: Finding the Root https://a.co/d/8FfnRab Finding Diamonds https://a.co/d/hBQCey8 Book on Boundaries: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/product/boundaries Celebrate Recovery: https://www.celebraterecovery.com
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    1 h y 12 m
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