Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.

Are you dressing for the life you have — or the one you think you should have?

We’re throwing it back to this key advice from Conni Jespersen, educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find, to help you redefine your style identity and build a wardrobe that actually feels like you. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.

We cover the 5 key elements of personal style — personality, lifestyle, preferences, environment, and influences — to help you uncover your unique signature look with confidence.

Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you’re ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off.

Listen to our full episode with Conni here.

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Are you exhausted from constantly trying to make everyone else happy, and losing yourself in the process? Today, we’re talking about breaking free from the burnout of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional outsourcing, and how to regulate your nervous system, trust yourself, and stop abandoning your own needs for the comfort of others.

We’re joined by Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, a Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing and Breathwork Practitioner, and Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. Bea unpacks the hidden cost of emotional outsourcing™, AKA the survival habit of looking to others for validation, self-worth, and emotional regulation, instead of tuning into yourself.

We dive into polyvagal theory, recognizing when you’re in functional freeze, and using somatic tools and nervous system mapping to heal the patterns of codependency, self-abandonment, and avoidance that keep you stuck.

If you’ve ever Googled “how to stop people-pleasing,” “why do I care so much what people think,” “how to heal my nervous system,” or “how to set boundaries without guilt,” this episode is for you.

Tune in to learn about:

• What Emotional Outsourcing really means — and why it’s a nervous system response, not a personality flaw
• How people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependence develop from early survival patterns
• Polyvagal theory 101: how understanding your vagus nerve can help you stop self-abandoning
• Are you in a state of functional freeze? How to recognize and heal from it
• Understanding social hypervigilence (and the empath paradox)
• How to set boundaries and make decisions without guilt or second-guessing
• Nervous system mapping and somatic tools to interrupt your automatic responses
• How to find balance between flexibility and authenticity
• How to stop “performing” to earn love and acceptance
• Practical tools for reclaiming your identity, rebuilding self-trust, and honouring your own needs without fear of conflict

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Have you ever stayed in a job, relationship, or situation that’s making you unhappy just because you’ve already invested so much time, money or effort into it? GIRL, SAME. And that’s on sunk cost fallacy, one of the most common (and costly) psychological biases that can keep us trapped following paths that no longer serve us.

Being able to change your mind and make better decisions is a major key to adulting, so in this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of sunk cost fallacy and how to finally stop letting past investments dictate your future decisions. I dive into how this bias impacts your career, relationships, and mindset, and the powerful mental shifts you can make to start choosing based on alignment — not avoidance.

Just because you’ve spent a long time making a mistake doesn’t mean you need to keep making it…. sometimes, cutting your losses can be an investment in your future self.

Tune in for:
🧠 The psychology behind why we stay stuck (loss aversion, identity, fear of failure, and more)
💔 How sunk cost bias shows up in relationships, career, and big life decisions
💸 How to know when to walk away vs when to stay committed

💡 3 steps to challenging these thinking patterns and attuning to what you really want
✏️ 4 powerful reflection questions to break free from sunk cost thinking
✨ Why walking away isn’t quitting — it’s evolving and growing

Whatever big decisions or questions you’re navigating, this episode will help you make smarter, more self-aware decisions so you can let go of what’s no longer working.

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