Success is not a Safety Net. It’s a Story You Outgrow.

What if the success you've been chasing isn't actually yours? That prestigious title, impressive salary, and recognition might look good on paper, but they could be part of a story you've inherited rather than one you've consciously created.

Many of us—especially emerging leaders—fall into this trap. We get promoted without understanding what kind of leader we want to be. We say yes to everything, believing being indispensable is the only way forward. We burn ourselves out trying to prove we belong instead of asking whether this version of success even matters to us. I know this pattern intimately because I've lived it, collecting markers of success that looked fine from the outside while feeling stagnant within.

But here's the truth: success isn't about the parking spot with your name on it. It's about knowing if the life you're living is still yours, or if you're holding onto someone else's definition. For seasoned leaders, this might manifest as that quiet question: "Is this it?" The realization that the ladder you climbed might have been leaning against the wrong wall.

Outgrowing success isn't failure—it's growth. It happens when you stop measuring your worth by a checklist and start asking deeper questions about what truly matters. This journey requires supportive people around you who see your potential and tell you the truth when you drift. It demands intentional action, not just awareness—taking small steps each day toward becoming the leader you aspire to be, not the one others expect.

Your next clear move might be identifying one place where your old success story no longer serves you and taking action to rewrite it. Remember, readiness isn't about having everything figured out. It's about trusting yourself enough to move forward anyway, knowing you can adjust course as you go. Because the reality is, you're more ready than you think.