Stop the Crazy Cycle: Love the Way They Want to Be Loved

Newly engaged or decades in? This candid conversation with Rusty and Heather unpacks one of the most practical skills for a healthy marriage: love your spouse the way they want to be loved—not just how love comes naturally to you. Using the Five Love Languages framework (words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, and physical touch), they share real-life stories of how needs shift across seasons of life—work changes, parenting, even healing after betrayal—and why sacrificial love breaks the “crazy cycle” of withholding. You’ll learn why men often experience affirmation as respect, how deficits can skew quiz results, and simple daily ways to meet each other’s needs without manipulation or keeping score. Whether you’re dating, newly married, or rebuilding trust, this episode offers clear next steps for connection, communication, and emotional intimacy. Grab a date night, take (or retake) the quiz, and use today’s practical ideas to create more safety, closeness, and fun—one loving choice at a time.

The Redeemed Marriage Website

Watch on YouTube