Stop Repeating Old Patterns: Attachment Styles in Love & Divorce Recovery

Do your relationships keep triggering old wounds? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wife’s Club, therapist Melissa Lapides breaks down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up after divorce—and how to finally heal them.

Whether you’re newly divorced, co-parenting, or opening your heart to love again, this conversation will help you stop repeating painful patterns and reclaim your emotional power.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• What attachment wounds are and how they form in childhood
• How anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up in love and divorce
• Why sitting with emotions leads to deeper healing
• Practical tools to separate real needs from emotional triggers
• How to stop letting old wounds bleed into new relationships

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

• 00:00 Intro

• 02:22 Understanding attachment wounds

• 05:28 Navigating separation & divorce

• 06:21 Healing through self-awareness in divorce

• 08:10 The role of mirroring in relationships

• 09:01 Communicating needs in relationships

• 21:27 Embracing acceptance in relationships

• 22:10 The power of communication & compromise

• 25:01 Nonviolent communication techniques

• 29:13 Building emotional resilience

• 30:48 Self-discovery & personal growth after divorce

• 33:34 Navigating new relationships post-divorce

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