Parenting teens isn’t about talking more — it’s about asking better. Discover the Question Only Tool today. Every parent wants their teen to succeed. But success doesn’t come from micromanaging — it comes from ownership. In this episode, we show you how to use The Question Only Conversation to guide your teen toward greater autonomy, confidence, and motivation — all while strengthening your bond.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Teen Wisdom

03:51 The Shift from Parenting to Coaching

07:55 Empowering Teens Through Questions

10:02 The Power of Inquiry-Based Conversations

11:53 Real-Life Examples: Jason's Track Success

15:01 Maya's Dance Audition Journey

17:58 Lessons from Phil Jackson's Coaching Style

20:58 Implementing The Question Only Conversation (QOC)

Gold Nuggets

-Teens often possess wisdom that parents may overlook.

-Shifting from parenting to coaching can enhance relationships.

-Asking questions can empower teens to express their thoughts.

-Unsolicited advice can hinder a teen's sense of autonomy.

-Question Only Conversation is a powerful tool for parents.

-Building a relationship based on respect leads to better communication.

-Teens need to feel ownership of their successes.

-Self-determination theory emphasizes autonomy, mastery, and connection.

-Effective communication can prevent breakdowns in relationships.

-Parents should act as mirrors to help teens process their experiences.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful if you would like, review, or comment or SHARE an episode from any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

"Parenting is the hardest job, and there's not a close second!" Parents--we see you and we know that quote by our very own (Nate Crandall) is true as the ocean is blue. And that is exactly why we started this podcast back in the summer of 2023. We've been here every Monday for 93 weeks discussing a perspective shift and approach that helps parents to begin coaching their athletes and performers. That crucial shift requires that your communication and connection with your teens is taken to a higher level. You can do this and we're here to help!

We're very excited to announce that we are ramping up our efforts to help you to stop parenting and start coaching. And our efforts will be seen in our every improving website, our creation of new tools and courses, our fully functional and growing YouTube channel, and our customized coaching offerings.

Thanks for helping us grow!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, or comment on any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Hey parents—what if the greatest measure of your teen's success wasn’t how many points they scored, solos they nailed, or trophies they earned... but how they made everyone around them better? In this episode, we unpack the powerful concept of becoming a multiplier, and why it might be the secret ingredient your teen is missing.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Concept of Win-Win-Win & Being a Multiplier

02:50 The Ripple Effect in Team Dynamics

05:33 The Power of Multipliers in Sports

08:39 Lessons from Larry Bird and Magic Johnson

11:08 The Role of Parents in Fostering Multipliers

13:56 Real-World Examples of Multipliers

16:41 Encouraging a Multiplier Mindset in Kids

19:39 The Distinction Between MOP and MVP

22:27 Closing Thoughts on Multipliers and Impact

Takeaways

-The concept of 'win-win-win' extends beyond traditional win-win scenarios.

-Larry Bird and Magic Johnson were masters at making their teammates better.

-Cooper Flagg exemplifies the multiplier effect in sports.

-True competition is about elevating everyone's performance.

-Multipliers create a ripple effect that benefits all involved.

-Parents should model multiplier behavior for their children.

-Asking the right questions can help children recognize their impact on others.

-Identifying multipliers in various fields can inspire kids.

-The distinction between MVP and MOP highlights the value of impact over individual accolades.

-Encouraging a multiplier mindset leads to greater joy and success in teams.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, or comment on any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve