If you’re dating after 40 and you finally meet someone you genuinely like… and instead of feeling calm and excited, your body goes into panic mode, this episode is for you.

Anxiety means something matters.

When you’ve spent years loving emotionally unavailable men, your nervous system learns that connection equals risk. So when a kind, emotionally present man shows up, your body can interpret that as danger.

Nothing is wrong with you.
Your body is protecting you.

In this episode, I share what happened before my first date with my husband (shaking hands, spiralling thoughts, every instinct telling me to cancel) and the quiet inner voice that said, “Go.”

We’re unpacking how to stay grounded when old patterns activate… even when your body feels anything but calm.

• Why your anxiety might actually be a sign you’re stepping into something healthy
• The subtle difference between fear and intuition (and how to spot it in the moment)
• What your spiralling thoughts are really trying to protect you from
• Why the body is always the last to feel safe even after years of healing
• How to make steady, self-led decisions when you really like him
  

You can feel anxious… and still choose calmly.

And that changes everything.

🎧 Listen now to learn how to calm your nervous system, trust your intuition, and stay grounded when you finally meet someone who matters.

Links in the episode: Meditations + Courses https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself trying to secure your place in someone’s life, by explaining yourself, being endlessly understanding and waiting for him to be ready, this episode is for you.

In Episode 51 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about one of the most subtle but powerful patterns in dating: the auditioning identity.

This is the pattern where you don’t think you’re chasing…
but you’re constantly positioning yourself to be chosen.
Where patience replaces discernment…
where emotional labour replaces partnership…
and where almost-relationships feel normal because proving has felt normal for a very long time.

What’s Inside This Episode:

• The quiet ways auditioning shows up in early dating (even for strong, self-aware women)
• Why over-explaining, over-texting, and over-accommodating drain your power
• The difference between waiting for him to decide and evaluating how you actually feel
• The identity shift from “Do you like me?” to “Do I like how this feels?”
• How discernment becomes natural when you stop trying to earn your place

This episode is part of Season 5: Embodiment, Identity & Lasting Love, where we stop trying to perform better in dating and start living from the identity of a woman who chooses.

✨ Integration prompt from the episode:
“Am I trying to be chosen… or am I choosing?”

🎧 Listen now and begin stepping out of auditioning and into calm, grounded self-leadership in love.

Links from the episode: https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Remember: You can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. And love is closer than you think.

If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself in the role of emotional caretaker, always understanding, always giving the benefit of the doubt, always staying longer than feels good, this episode is for you.

In Episode 50 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about one of the biggest hidden blocks to healthy love: the emotional caretaker identity.

This is the pattern where love gets confused with effort…
where overgiving feels like chemistry…
and where emotionally unavailable men keep showing up because you’ve been trained to manage, fix, and emotionally hold everyone but yourself.

What’s Inside This Episode:

• The real reason overgiving feels so automatic (and why it has nothing to do with being “needy”)
  
• What quietly happens to attraction when you become the emotional manager in dating
  
• The surprising truth about why calm, available men can trigger disinterest at first
  
• The identity shift that changes everything—from trying to make it work to simply choosing
  
• What “receiving love” actually looks and feels like when you’ve spent a lifetime earning it

This episode is part of Season 5: Embodiment, Identity & Lasting Love, where we stop trying to date differently and start being someone who dates differently.

✨ Integration prompt from the episode:
“Am I relating to him… or managing him?”

🎧 Listen now and begin releasing the belief that love requires effort, fixing, or emotional labour.

Magnetic Love Bundle: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove

Remember:You can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. And love is closer than you think.