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Compassion is at the heart of our discussion today, so let’s dive right into it. We explore how compassion serves as a cosmic wink that connects us all, as Alan Watts puts it. This episode unpacks the differences between compassion, empathy, and judgment, and how understanding these can help us navigate our lives better. We’re all just players in this game called life, and recognizing each other’s struggles is key to becoming whole. Join me, Steven Webb, as we unravel what it really means to practice compassion in our daily interactions and why it matters more than ever.

Compassion is a fascinating topic, and in this episode, I dive deep into what it really means. I start by reflecting on Alan Watts' idea that compassion is like a cosmic wink, a warm acknowledgment that we see each other as fellow players in this game of life. I also explore the thoughts of Ken Wilber, who suggests that true judgment comes from a place of compassion. This leads me to ponder the differences between judgment, empathy, and compassion. Judgment often comes with a personal lens, where we see the world through our own experiences, and this can lead to negative assessments of others. Empathy, on the other hand, lets us feel what others feel, but it can sometimes become self-centered, drawing us away from the person in need. Compassion, however, is about genuinely being present for someone without the need to turn the spotlight back onto ourselves. It's about opening our hearts and really seeing others for who they are, not just for their struggles but as whole beings. Throughout this episode, I share personal stories and insights that highlight the importance of compassion in our lives, especially during tough times. I encourage listeners to practice small acts of kindness and to approach each interaction with an open heart, allowing us to become whole together.

Takeaways:

• Compassion is recognized as the cosmic wink acknowledging our shared human experience. It connects us all.
• Empathy and judgment differ significantly, where empathy often centers around our own feelings and experiences.
• True compassion requires us to open our hearts to others rather than projecting our own experiences onto them.
• To foster compassion, we need to embrace both our weaknesses and strengths, allowing us to become whole.
• Compassion is action-oriented, encouraging us to care for others without turning the focus back to ourselves.
• Practicing small acts of kindness daily can help cultivate a more compassionate mindset in our lives.

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🧘 Episode Summary

In this episode of Stillness in the Storms, I talk about attachment. It's one of the biggest causes of suffering, but I'm not here to tell you to let go. I think that advice is nonsense. What if instead of trying to let go, we simply allowed things to be as they are?

I share what attachment has looked like in my life. From cigarettes to identity to the future I imagined that never arrived. You'll also hear from members of my WhatsApp group who told me what they find hardest to let go of. We cover nostalgia, self-worth, change, and why trying so hard is often the problem.

This is not about giving everything up. It’s about loosening the grip, opening your hand, and allowing what comes and goes to just be.

🎧 Why Listen

• You are struggling to let go and nothing seems to work
• You are attached to a past version of yourself or a future that never came
• You want a down-to-earth take on mindfulness and Buddhist teachings that make sense in real life
• You are tired of chasing happiness and need space to breathe

🌟 Quotes from the Episode

• “Letting go is pants. It doesn’t work. Just open your hand and let it be.”
• “You don’t have to give something up forever. Just give it up for one hour.”
• “You’re not a smoker who gave up. You’re just someone who didn’t smoke this hour.”
• “The minute you stop trying to be better, the better version of you starts to show up.”
• “Buddhism doesn’t say don’t love. It says don’t cling.”
• “Enjoy the moment but don’t become attached to it. Let it come and go.”

☕ Thank You

This podcast is free and always will be because of the people who support it. I do not run adverts. That’s a choice I make so you can tune in and hear what I have to say without interruption.

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🎙 Episode Title: Forgiveness Begins When the Heart Breaks Open

Forgiveness Meditation: Forgiveness for Your Freedom

🧘 Host: Steven Webb | Stillness in the Storms

🎧 Episode Summary:

In this honest and raw episode, I talk about my own journey through heartbreak, betrayal and real forgiveness. Not the kind where you say the right words to move on. The kind that comes slowly. Quietly. The kind that has nothing to do with the other person.

I share the story of being cheated on. The numbness. The anger. The questions I never asked. And the moment, years later, when a single text made me realise I had already forgiven her.

This is not about forgetting. It is not about being okay with what happened. It is about breaking the grip that the past has on your heart. It is about grieving the life you thought you were going to live. It is about reclaiming your peace.

If someone has hurt you or left you, or if you are stuck in a story that replays over and over, this episode is for you.

🛠 In This Episode:

• Why "forgive and forget" is a myth
• How I navigated betrayal while living with paralysis
• The day I realised I had truly forgiven
• Why we grieve the imagined life more than the person
• How to let go when there are no answers
• A simple practice to begin your own path to forgiveness

🧘 Forgiveness Practice and Affirmations:

Find a quiet space. Sit comfortably. Bring to mind the person or situation that caused the pain. Let it sit without story. Just feel what is there. Then say inwardly:

• I remember the harm that was done.
• I may not be ready to forgive, but I am willing to try.
• May I find peace in my heart.
• May I be free from the pain that caused you to hurt me.
• I release myself from the burden of this hurt.

You do not have to rush. You do not have to think about it every day. Just let the practice do its work. And when the mind brings it up again, simply say, I forgave them. Let it pass. And over time, the weight softens.

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