In this listener Q&A, Cate tackles two wildly relatable ADHD questions: sudden sensory discomfort during intimacy, and the maddening cycle of not being able to start a task… then not being able to stop.

From sensory overload and burnout to hyperfocus, momentum anxiety, and emotional regulation, Cate breaks down what’s going on and how to navigate it without losing it.

Thanks to our listeners for these deeply ADHD-coded questions! Keep ’em coming.

For more on this topic:

• Listen: ADHD and sensory overwhelm
• Listen: ADHD sensory challenges and sex
• Read: ADHD and hyperfocus

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We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode!

This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence.

For more on this topic:

• Listen: ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetence
• Watch: ADHD and people-pleasing
• Read: What IS weaponized incompetence?

Timestamps:

(01:00) A sparkle-stealing husband

(04:10) Is it ADHD… or a toxic partner?

(08:20) ADHD shame spiral: “I can’t do anything right!”

(11:40) Clutter blindness and burnout

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

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Ever said yes to sex a little too fast and regretted it later? Same.

Today we’re joined by psychologist and Understood Expert Dr. Ari Tuckman for a candid talk about impulsivity, ADHD, and intimacy. We’ll dig into the messy mix of consent, shame, and emotional regulation. And we’ll talk about how to slow down, stay curious, and find self-compassion after a spicy decision.

For more on this topic:

• Listen: Impulsivity, risky behavior, and obsessions (Chris’ story)
• Listen: ADHD, loving intensely, and impulsivity (Ange’s story)

Timestamps:

02:15 How ADHD-related impulsivity can influence sexual decisions

08:45 Consent, emotional regulation, and navigating pressure or fear of rejection

17:30 Differentiating shame from embarrassment after vulnerable sexual experiences

28:10 Strategies for slowing down and gathering insights from experiences

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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