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Is it really that bad—or are you just starting to wonder? In this episode of the Sober Friends podcast, we talk about that quiet question many of us ask ourselves: “Do I actually have a problem with alcohol?” You don’t need to lose everything to get sober. We explore what a “high bottom” looks like, how addiction can quietly damage your life long before rock bottom hits, and why questioning your drinking might be the biggest red flag of all. Whether you’re 18 or 58, your moment of clarity doesn’t have to come wrapped in disaster. Tune in for honest conversation, personal stories, and a few uncomfortable truths that just might change your life.

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What if the person you love isn’t broken—just buried under addiction?

In this powerful episode, I sit down with addiction counselor and YouTube creator Amber Hollingsworth of Put The Shovel Down to talk about something we don’t hear enough in recovery: how to actually help a loved one struggling with addiction—without enabling or playing the villain.

Amber shares insight from two decades of working with addicts and their families, including:

• Why tough love often backfires
• The dangers of playing the “bad guy” role
• How denial is a defense mechanism, not defiance
• The strategy she teaches to gently nudge someone toward recovery
• What really motivates change—and what pushes people away

Whether you’re sober yourself or trying to help someone who isn’t, this conversation will shift your mindset and give you tools you can use today.

🔗 Check out Amber’s YouTube channel: Put The Shovel Down

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In this episode of The Sober Friends Podcast, Matt and Steve get real about something that challenges many of us in sobriety—asking for help and, even harder, accepting it. Whether it’s a neighbor offering to help with yard work or a sponsor helping you through a relapse, support doesn’t always show up the way we expect. And sometimes pride, fear, or shame can keep us from accepting what we truly need.

From stories of burnout and Cadillac problems to lessons learned through therapy, meetings, and humble pie, this conversation dives into how asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s strength. We also talk about what makes an offer of help actually useful—and why “Let me know if you need anything” usually falls flat.

Whether you’re new to sobriety or have been around for decades, this episode reminds us all: you don’t have to do it alone.

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