Episode Summary

On this episode of the podcast we are joined by Kia Lee, author of her memoir “Lighthouse” in which she recounts her journey to surviving and healing from narcissistic abuse.

Kia delves deep into the subtleties of a dynamic between a narcissist and their victim, how and why she was drawn into such a toxic relationship, and how she finally not only navigated her away out, but also did so with her powerreclaimed. Kia discusses the strength and courage it took to relive her trauma as she wrote her tell-all book as a way of to understand the dynamic further, heal properly, and warn others. Kia shares how she tapped into various healing modalities, including somatic breathwork, to process her trauma and release any stored negative energy. She emphasized the importance of not carrying past trauma into future relationships, and the need to uncover, and heal unhealed wounds from childhood. In our conversation with her Kia highlights the deceptive nature of a narcissist and intimately reveals her experience dealing with one, as well as the importance of recognizing the signs and protecting oneself. She discusses the illusion of caring and generosity a narcissist may exhibit, and the tactics narcissists use to manipulate, and control. Kia emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and discernment in identifying narcissistic individuals and setting boundaries. She also shares her journey of healing and empowerment, including her experience with the legal system and her battle with cancer. Kia is passionate about sharing her story with the world as a way of informing and warning others, as well as acting as a powerful beacon of hope as someone who herself has recovered and healed from narcissistic abuse.

Keywords

narcissistic abuse, healing, trauma, reclaiming power, somatic breathwork, warning signs, narcissistic abuse, illusion of caring, caution in relationships, manipulation tactics, self- awareness, discernment, setting boundaries, healing journey, legal system, cancer

Takeaways

· Surviving narcissistic abuse requires strength, courage, and a commitment to healing.

· Writing about the trauma can be a powerful way to process and release stored energy.

· It is important to not carry past trauma into future relationships and to uncover and heal

unhealed wounds from childhood.

· Narcissists are deceptive and can present a caring and generous facade while hiding their

true nature. Warning signs include controlling behavior, possessiveness, and making comments that diminish your self-worth. Recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse and protect yourself

· Be cautious in relationships and be aware of the illusion of caring and generosity

· Develop self-awareness and discernment to identify narcissistic individuals

· Set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being

· Seek support from others who have experienced narcissistic abuse

· Embrace healing and empowerment after trauma

· Document evidence and be prepared when dealing with the legal system

· Face mortality and appreciate the importance of life

· Use your experiences to help and support others

Quotes

"I wanted to release it because it was important...