Welcome to Episode 452 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Roy Graff who speaks to me about relationship anarchy, consensual non-monogamy, and the importance of communication in alternative relationship structures.

In this episode, Roy shares his deeply personal journey from decades of serial monogamy to embracing polyamory as an orientation and ultimately finding resonance in the philosophy of relationship anarchy. We explore the difference between open relationships and ethical non-monogamy, the role of emotional maturity, and how boundaries and communication can transform romantic connections.

Roy Graff is a Psychosynthesis Relationship Counsellor based in London, UK. Drawing on his training and over nine years of experience facilitating workshops and group work, Roy supports clients in exploring the full spectrum of their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. His practice is inclusive and affirming of Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), welcoming LGBTQ+ individuals and those in non-monogamous relationships. In addition to his counselling work, Roy is a relationship coach specializing in alternative and non-traditional relationship dynamics, helping individuals and partners build resilience, improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen empathetic, conscious connections.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Roy’s Journey From Serial Monogamy To Polyamory

· How Relationship Anarchy Challenges Social Norms

· The Difference Between Ethical And Unethical Non-Monogamy

· Why Communication Is The Foundation Of Alternative Relationships

· Navigating Jealousy And Emotional Triggers

· The Role Of Boundaries In Polyamorous Dynamics

· Strategies For Sharing Information About Other Partners

· Understanding The “Relationship Escalator”

· How Solo Polyamory Works In Practice

Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex.

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Welcome to Episode 451 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton who speaks to me about navigating non-monogamy, jealousy, and building healthy polyamorous relationships.

In this conversation, I invite Joli to share the very human, very messy path she took from a long-term monogamous marriage into consensual non-monogamy. We talk about how a simple crush, paired with new language for polyamory, sparked courageous but complicated conversations, the pitfalls of working with clinicians who default to monogamy, and the painful social narratives that cast open-relationship exploration as “cheating” even when no boundaries are crossed.

Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She is a depth psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Vogue, Cosmo, and NPR. She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.

In this episode, you will hear:

· From Monogamy To Non-Monogamy: A Real-Life Origin Story

· Why Honesty Without Skills Still Hurts

· The Therapist Fit Problem In CNM

· Naming Feelings vs. Trying To Erase Them

· Jealousy Happens - Bans Make It Worse

· Agreements, Not Assumptions

· Breakup And Aftercare In Polyamory

· Parenting And Cohabitation Considerations

· Nervous System Tools For Regulation

· Defining Your Own CNM Script Over Time

Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex.

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Welcome to Episode 450 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Carrie Jeroslow who speaks to me about exploring monogamish relationships, communication, and relationship diversity.

In this conversation, Carrie unpacks the term “Monogamish,” originally coined to describe a space between strict monogamy and fully open relationships, and shares how transparency, not secrecy, became the cornerstone of her own early experiences with non‑monogamy. We talk through the realities behind the “ish”: clunky starts, learning curves, aftercare, and the deep inner work that jealousy often invites.

International Best-Selling Author and Relationship Diversity Advocate, Carrie Jeroslow, is passionate about bringing intentionality into intimate relationships by releasing the programming of what we’re taught relationships SHOULD be and shifting to what we really WANT them to be. This highly personal process requires getting to know one's ever-evolving self as intimately as possible. She believes that when we learn and accept who we truly are, we can be more authentic in our relationships with others, which brings an unparalleled sense of joyfulness and fulfillment to our lives as a whole.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Defining Monogamish

· Honesty Over Secrecy

· Aftercare And Debriefs

· Becoming Intimate With Jealousy

· Updating Inherited Beliefs

· Boundaries You Can Revisit

· Move At The Slowest Partner’s Pace

· Culture, Labels, And Flexibility

· Communication As A Core Skill

Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex.

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Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions