What if bondage isn't about pain, punishment, or being "bad," but about devotion, safety, and coming home to yourself?

Shibari artist and ritualist Rina Trevi joins to chat rope, tantra, regulated danger, shadow play, and why chosen vulnerability hits differently than forced vulnerability.

We get into:
- Why Shibari can be deeply healing
- The difference between kink and conscious power exchange
- Trauma, surrender, & somatic memory
- How erotic play can free you from victimhood
- Connection without scripts, goals, or performance
- Cervical orgasms, tears, & divine union

This one is spiritual, sensual, & psychological...buckle up, buttercup.

Timestamps:
01:05 – What is Shibari, really? Origins, shame, & vulnerability
03:45 – Choosing vulnerability vs being forced into it
06:30 – Surrender, trauma, & the body's response to restraint
09:40 – Childhood wounds, safety, & somatic memory
12:10 – When Shibari becomes healing (and when it doesn't)
15:00 – Fast food sex vs sacred meal
18:10 – Where kinks come from (trauma, archetypes, & mystery)
21:30 – Playing with shadow, power, & taboo safely
25:40 – Regulated danger & why extremes feel intimate
28:55 – How to explore fantasies with a partner (without shock)
31:00 – Aftercare, integration, & altered states
33:30 – Vipassana, cocooning, & spiritual restraint
36:00 – Tantra vs goal-oriented sex
39:30 – Devotion, presence, & erotic creativity
42:30 – Cervical orgasms, tears, & divine union
45:00 – Lightning round: truth & devotion
46:20 – Rina's books: Shibari as a Ritual & Freedom Bound

Connect with Rina:
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https://www.vulnerabilitycoaching.com/about

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Your childhood doesn’t disappear when you start dating...it gets activated.

In this episode of Sex, Drugs, & Soul, I am joined by attachment and relational healing coach Genell Gorman for a candid, unscripted conversation focused on mother wounds, father wounds, attachment styles, CPTSD, and how early emotional experiences shape adult relationships.

Together, we explore...
• The “oh sh*t” moment when you realize your dating patterns mirror childhood wounds
• How emotionally unavailable parents create anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment styles
• Trauma bonding vs. genuine chemistry
• Why chaos can be mistaken for love and how to break that cycle
• Healing without becoming emotionally armored or hyper-independent
• Whether you need to “heal first” or if heal occurs through relationships
• Reparenting, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming your personal power

This episode is for anyone navigating dating, intimacy, or healing, who is tired of repeating the same story and ready to choose love from a place regulation rather than longing.

Timestamps:
00:00 Intro & grounding
02:20 The “oh sh*t” moment — childhood shaping adult love
05:50 Father wounds & emotionally unavailable partners
09:40 Loss, abandonment, & nervous system imprinting
13:20 Trauma bonding & attraction to unavailable partners
17:30 CPTSD, codependency, & self-abandonment
22:00 Anxious vs. avoidant dynamics
27:30 Isolation, hyper-independence, & fears of intimacy
32:00 Chemistry vs slow-burn safety
36:00 Chaos does not equal love
41:00 Cutting off parents vs. establishing boundaries & compassion
47:30 Inner child healing & reparenting
51:30 Can relationships heal us?
55:00 Final reflections & encouragement

Connect with Genell:
https://www.genellgorman.com/
https://www.instagram.com/genell.gorman/

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“Real power is speaking your desire without being attached to the outcome.”

What if the real power isn’t getting what you want but having the courage to ask for it?

In this episode, Dennis Hull joins to talk about sovereignty, desire, boundaries, rejection, and why attachment to outcome quietly runs so many of our lives. We unpack the philosophy behind tantra play spaces, the difference between safety and sovereignty, and why real community can’t be built online alone.

This is a conversation about pleasure without performance, asking without expectation, and learning how to stay present even when you hear no.

Messy. Honest. Deeply human.

Connect with Dennis
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsdennishull/
Website: https://www.dennishull.com/

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