Session 15: Healing the Wound of "Not Mattering"

We start with a victory: Bethany and Brian successfully navigate a conflict without spiraling, turning a sarcastic comment into a moment of repair . Digging deeper, we find the wound fueling Brian's sarcasm: a fear that his daughter is being "segregated" or "dropped," just as he was by an uncle in childhood .

Brian shares the pain of feeling like a "test drive kid" who was easily replaced. The breakthrough arrives when Bethany reveals she is fighting the exact same battle—feeling overwhelmed and convinced that she and their baby "don't matter" either . It's a powerful look at how two people can fight for the same thing—significance—while fighting against each other.

This week's prompt: Think about a recurring fight you have with your partner. What is the deep, childhood wound that might be getting triggered? Are you fighting to be heard, to be chosen, or to matter? See if you can identify the specific feeling underneath the conflict.

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