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The highest self isn't an idealized version of ourselves to strive for, but rather our preconditioned consciousness that has always been present within us.

• Our highest self is like a blank sheet of paper upon which our life experiences are written
• Reconnecting with our highest self shifts inner work from fixing ourselves to remembering who we truly are
• When connected to our highest self, we respond rather than react in relationships
• Four practices to reconnect: stillness, writing as dialogue, self-compassion, and presence in daily life
• Notice moments when you feel merged with your highest self—during calm moments, while in nature, or engaged in activities you love
• Inner work isn't about becoming someone else but remembering who you already are

Join us for Write Yourself Open every second and fourth Tuesday at 1pm Eastern to use meditation, writing, and community discussion to reconnect with your highest self. Learn more and register at writeyourselfopen.com or find it on foundationofself.com or rachelestartetherapy.com.

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Timeline:

0:00:00 Rachel introduces the concept that there is no "higher self" to search for; you are already your highest self, and the task is to let go of false ideas about yourself, a reference to Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj, a spiritual teacher.

0:00:28 Host Rachel Astarte welcomes listeners and explains the ongoing "Building Your Foundation of Self" series, focusing today on the "highest self."

[0:01:00–0:05:27] Rachel defines the "highest self" as the pure, original consciousness within everyone—not an ideal to strive for, but the essence that is always present. She explains why reconnecting with the highest self is important for authentic inner work and avoiding burnout from constant self-improvement.

0:05:27 Transition to practical advice.

[0:05:28–0:08:01] Rachel shares four practical ways to reconnect with the highest self: stillness/meditation, writing as dialogue, self-compassion, and presence in daily life. She provides tips for each method.

[0:08:01–0:08:05] Encouragement to listen quietly for the answer from your highest self.

[0:08:05–0:11:50] Rachel gives examples of how listeners may have already experienced their highest self and invites them to notice and journal these moments. She emphasizes that inner work is about remembering who you are, not becoming someone else, and previews the topic of the next episode, the underdeveloped ego.

0:11:50 Rachel invites listeners to join the "Write Yourself Open" program for further exploration and support, providing details on how to join and

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Music:
"Ave Marimba"
Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
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Be mindful of your self-talk, it’s a conversation with the Universe.
—David James Lees

This podcast episode focuses on negative self-talk, exploring how destructive internal dialogues are learned, not inherent.

Rachel provides a four-step process to transform negative self-talk:

1. Awareness without judgment: Notice the critical inner voice without self-criticism

2. Identify the source: Recognize that negative thoughts often come from external influences, not your true self

3. Call in the Highest Self: Connect with your inner wisdom and eternal consciousness

4. Rewrite the script: Replace negative thoughts with compassionate, validating statements

The episode emphasizes that the inner critic is not bad, but scared, and should be met with curiosity and compassion.

Rachel uses the Cherokee tale of two wolves to illustrate how we choose which internal voice to "feed"—the one of fear or the one of love.

Key Message

You are not your negative thoughts. Your highest self is wise, loving, and connected to collective consciousness.

Link to Rachel's Substack, Foundation of Self

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"The Story of Two Wolves" courtesy of Lakota Circles of Hope

Music: "Journey Circle Song" written and performed by Rachel Astarte

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Timeline:

0:00:00 - Introduction begins, quote about self-talk
0:00:21 - Rachel Astarte welcomes listeners to the episode
0:01:21 - Explanation of how negative self-talk is learned
0:02:34 - Step one: Awareness without judgment
0:03:31 - Transition to step two
0:03:37 - Step two: Identify the source of negative self-talk
0:04:51 - Step three: Calling in the foundation of self
0:05:16 - Detailed explanation of the highest self
0:07:09 - Step four: Rewriting the script
0:08:38 - Cherokee tale of two wolves begins
0:10:29 - Conclusion of the two wolves story
0:11:05 - Wrapping up the main discussion
0:11:14 - Mention of August break
0:12:28 - Final closing remarks
0:12:30 - End of podcast

Write Your Self Open is a revolution in self-development that blends guided meditation, journaling, and supportive group discussion led by holistic psychotherapist Rachel Astarte.

It's all the benefits of personal transformation + community-building without the constraints of talk therapy.
Join anytime. No previous meditation or writing experience necessary.

http://writeyourselfopen.com

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Who looks outside dreams; who looks inside awakes.
—Carl Jung

In this episode, we explore the concept of awakening—a profound shift in consciousness where you recognize your interconnectedness with all existence. We'll delve into the spiritual and psychological dimensions of awakening, drawing from traditions like Zen Buddhism, Taoism, and Hinduism.

Most importantly, we'll look at how awakening transforms personal perception, challenging the ego's self-centered worldview. We'll also address the inevitable changes in relationships that happen once we set foot on the awakened path, the importance of inner work, and the need for nonjudgment and gentleness during personal growth.

Key Highlights

• Awakening is a perceptional shift in consciousness
• The ego resists understanding of interconnectedness
• Relationships naturally change during personal transformation
• Inner work requires patience and self-compassion
• Individual growth contributes to collective consciousness
• Awareness is the primary tool for personal development
• One cannot force awakening in others
• Personal healing impacts the broader community
• Spiritual growth is a continuous, lifelong journey
• Understanding interconnectedness leads to a more expansive worldview

Timeline:
0:00:00 - Opening quote by Carl Jung about looking inside to awaken
0:00:21 - Introduction to the concept of awakening

• Defined as a perceptional shift in consciousness
• Understanding interconnectedness with all things

0:01:42 - Exploration of awakening across different spiritual traditions

• Zen Buddhism (Satori)
• Taoism (Primal unified awareness)
• Hinduism (Sat Chit Ananda)

0:02:24 - Two key things that happen during awakening:

• Realizing interconnectedness
• Ego's resistance to this new awareness

0:05:50 - Relationships change during awakening

• Existing relationships may end or transform

0:06:07 - Systems theory explanation
Disruption of homeostasis in relationships

• Others may resist or react to one's personal transformation

0:08:37 - Key insights on personal growth:

• Cannot force awakening in others
• Need to be present and loving
• Respect others' individual journeys

0:10:00 - Being on the awakened path means:

• Shifting worldview
• Continuous inner work
• Clearing personal misalignments

0:11:51 - Practical approach to awakening:

• Non-judgment
• Awareness
• Gentleness
• Patience with personal growth

0:15:20 - Concluding message:

• Individual contribution is essential to the whole
• Personal inner work impacts community health

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Music:
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Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
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