Self Regulation Is Better Than Closure: How to Stop Reacting and Start Healing | ft @Joli.Artist

We’ve been taught that pain requires a target. Someone hurt you, so you hurt them back. Someone triggers you, so you defend yourself. The cycle repeats until you’re chronically inflamed and physiologically worn down.

But what if the problem is that you’re treating your nervous system like it has to fight every battle you’re invited to?

Pain is information. Inflammation is a signal. That tightness in your chest when you get a certain kind of text message is your body reporting that something needs attention. Not retaliation. Attention.

The culture trains you to look outward for resolution. Closure from the person who hurt you. Validation from the person who triggered you. Apologies, explanations, admissions of guilt. But none of that actually heals the physiological response you’re having in real time. None of it stops the cortisol. None of it regulates your nervous system.

Self regulation means recognizing that lashing out when you’re in pain just adds another layer of damage. Knowing this, healing yourself first becomes structurally necessary.

This episode covers why modern serial dating creates repeated chemical bereavement, how to redirect attack energy into healing energy, and why the “little you” inside deserves protection even when no one else is listening.

Full episode: So You’re Living in a Simulation podcast. Available everywhere.

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