The guest is Robi Schlaff, former director of the Westchester County Office for Women and executive director of the Westchester Family Justice Center, who explains building coordinated domestic violence and child abuse initiatives, including a Domestic Violence High Risk Team and multidisciplinary investigations, and the challenges of implementing policy across agencies and police. She critiques family court delays and discontinuous hearings, addresses misconceptions about domestic violence risk and offender presentation, discusses burnout boundaries, shares a survivor’s courageous public testimony, and advises friends and neighbors not to urge leaving but to connect victims with experts or call police if in immediate danger.

Topics

02:32 The Docket Dear Annie

03:39 Supporting Friends After Divorce

08:40 What Not To Say

11:40 Overrated Staying For Kids

14:02 Prenup Infidelity Clauses

15:50 Reputation In Divorce

16:50 Mocktails And Divorce

18:17 Inventing A Show Mocktail

19:39 Margarita Banter

20:05 Museum Gift Shop Debate

24:27 Meet Robi Schlaff

25:06 Making Change in Government

26:09 What Makes Policy Work

28:37 Family Court Fixes

32:49 Misconceptions in DV Cases

36:06 Public Risks and Outreach

38:39 Burnout and Boundaries

43:41 Leadership Secret Sauce

45:20 Survivor Courage Story

47:11 What Neighbors Should Do

48:27 Episode Wrap and Thanks

Evan interviews award-winning director Elizabeth Lo about her documentary Mistress Dispeller, following Teacher Wang’s work with a wife, husband, and mistress in China, and explores empathy, cultural “saving face,” legal/ethical challenges, filmmaking style, and the documentary marketplace.

Topics

00:46 Season Intro and Guest Tease

01:17 Producer Banter and Setup

02:40 On the Docket: Shaq Divorce

04:14 Kids and Divorce Reflections

07:46 Parenting After Separation

10:22 Overrated/Underrated Begins

10:50 Legal Takes Business and CPAs

13:56 Co Parenting Communication Rules

15:54 Fun Picks Cornhole and Photobooths

20:38 Introducing Elizabeth Lo

21:29 Mistress Dispeller Origin Story

22:31 Teacher Wang Philosophy on Pain

23:59 Cheating Husbands Beyond Villains

26:01 Wives Culture and Saving Face

27:36 Directing Without Taking Sides

30:00 Editing With Restraint

30:20 Could It Work In The West

31:56 Legal And Ethical Minefields

34:01 Reconsent And Participant Protection

35:27 Mistress Beyond Villainy

36:43 What Mistress Dispelling Reveals

38:14 Participant Reactions And Trust

40:23 Filmmaking Style And Craft

42:15 Motivation And Doc Market Shift

44:19 Monogamy Love And Reflection

47:20 Future Love Stories

49:04 They Said It Quotes Segment

56:28 Documentary As Poetry

01:01:00 Wrap Up And Farewell

Evan delves into the complex world of divorce and relationships, spotlighting how financial dynamics impact these processes. The episode features an insightful discussion with journalist and author Josie Cox, who talks about her article on the rise in divorce rates when women out-earn men and her new book, 'Women Money Power: The Rise and Fall of Economic Equality.' The conversation covers the psychological and financial aspects of divorce, societal expectations, and the gender pay gap. Additionally, the episode presents the popular segment 'Overrated Underrated' and explores recent headlines in the world of divorce and family law.

Topics

00:38 Season Six Kickoff and Reflections

03:54 Explosive Divorce Headlines

10:13 Overrated or Underrated: Divorce Edition

19:41 Interview with Journalist Josie Cox

28:38 Generational Shifts in Financial Dynamics

29:25 The Surprising Conservatism of Younger Generations

32:10 The Evolving Perception of Prenuptial Agreements

35:27 Financial Literacy and Gender Inclusion

39:42 The Gender Pay Gap: A Deep Dive

46:21 Addressing Gender Inequality in Professional Sports

52:00 Closing Thoughts and Future Directions

53:01 Fun Segment: They Said It