This audio was recorded in 2006, long before Hijackals became Dr. Shaler's focus.

Rethinking Selfishness: "What if I told you that I now value selfishness? Would that be shocking? Not only do I value it, but I encourage others to value it and practice it."

In this first of our upcoming Legacy Files, Dr. Shaler explores the often misunderstood concept of selfishness and redefines it as a positive force. Throughout our lives, many of us have been taught that being selfish is wrong. However, Dr. Shaler encourages us to reconsider this notion, advocating for a type of selfishness that empowers us to better care for ourselves and, in turn, more genuinely care for others.

She delves into how practicing what she terms "positive selfishness" can actually increase our self-esteem, improve our personal freedom, and enhance our abilities to contribute to the world. In this discussion, we'll unpack the differences between detrimental selfishness and beneficial self-focus, explore the importance of setting boundaries, and debunk the myth that loving oneself is an act of neglect towards others. Join us as we lean into learning how to be positively selfish, and why it is crucial not just for personal happiness, but also for fostering healthier relationships.

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We are deeply saddened to share that Dr. Shaler passed away unexpectedly on April 3, 2024.

She left peacefully and without any further discomfort, full of grace. Rhoberta worked hard to maintain her energy to continue offering time and wisdom to clients, members, and strangers alike, who found her voice and demeanor comforting and strengthening as you each faced difficult and overwhelming experiences.

We know it was very hard for her to let go enough to leave her clients and fans behind, and that serving you all was her greatest joy.

If you need some time with her, please visit her youtube channel (youtube.com/@forrelationshiphelp) or listen to other episodes in this podcast. There is a wealth more information among all her body of work, that has not yet made it into the world. We will continue to surface this additional material and content from her deep archive to allow her voice and strength to continue helping you all.

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Whether you're looking for a new friend or a potential new relationship, you don't want to be trauma dumping. When you let your whole story fly, someone else is likely to get crushed by it.

Out of the gate, with someone new, it's smart to establish a relationship dynamic based on balance, mutual sharing, and emotional maturity. Oversharing personal traumas can burden the budding relationship and skew its potential for growth.

Whether you're single, dating, or looking to improve your emotional connections, this episode of #saveyoursanitypodcast share strategies and practices you need, to proceed with care and confidence.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• New Relationships and Emotional Baggage
• Understanding Drama Dumping and Trauma Dumping
• Emotional Health and Relationship Dynamics
• Building Emotional Maturity
• Dating After a Toxic Relationship

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or miserable middle schooler, right?

Learn more about recognizing the patterns and altering your expectations now.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• #Hijackals are emotionally immature.
• Check your expectations when you approach a narcissist. Expecting equality? Oops!
• Often feel you're talking to a tiresome toddler or demanding teenager when you try to reason with a Hijackal?
• Why you need to do your own work to make good decisions about what to do about the Hijackal

I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

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Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community

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