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What if the way we select and promote military leaders is wired to produce the very failures we say we want to avoid? That’s the challenge we take on with Don Vandergriff, a retired Marine and Army officer, defense analyst, and one of the most persistent voices for personnel reform in the U.S. military. Don pulls back the curtain on a system shaped by industrial-age thinking—zero-defects culture, inflated evaluations, and top-heavy headquarters—that rewards process and optics over performance and character.

We trace hard lessons from the National Training Center, where free-play exercises exposed how “fast-track” leaders falter under stress, and we connect those insights to Afghanistan, where statistical goals often replaced ground truth. Don contrasts that with historical models from Helmuth von Moltke’s Prussia, where outcomes-based training and rigorous war games forged decision-makers capable of acting under uncertainty. Along the way, we unpack why centralized boards miss nuance, how faint-praise evaluations can silently derail promising careers, and why due process failures erode trust.

Then we get practical. Don outlines three fixes with real bite: shift from up-or-out to up-or-perform so mastery is rewarded, slim a bloated officer corps that pulls attention inward, and rebuild professional military education around outcomes—free-play war games, honest after-action reviews, and mission command that pushes authority down. We also map where veterans still hold leverage: mentoring, writing, podcasts, and thoughtful public debate that prioritizes receipts over rhetoric. If culture eats strategy for breakfast, incentives set the menu—and changing them is how we get better leaders.

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The story opens at a dinner party and ends with a near-unheard-of legal result: dismissal with prejudice. In between is retired Colonel Dan Wilson’s toughest battle—how a decorated Marine became the target of a false allegation, why the case grew despite exculpatory DNA, and what happens when command climate, politics, and process collide.

We trace Dan’s life from childhood in Africa through four decades of Marine command, the accusation, and months under a gag order as headlines spread. He recounts being sent to the brig, choosing general population, and finding purpose there, then explains a military justice system civilians rarely see—small panels, nonunanimous verdicts, command influence, and pressure that drives overcharging.

Even after an appellate court dismissed the key conviction with prejudice, the fight continued through administrative penalties and retirement disputes. Dan lays out needed reforms—ending command influence, requiring unanimous verdicts, opening voir dire, raising evidence standards, and providing real post-exoneration relief—while sharing how faith, sobriety, routine, and writing rebuilt his life.

If you care about military justice, due process, and the gap between headlines and truth, this conversation doesn’t pull punches. Listen, share, tell us which reform you’d start with—and if it hits home, subscribe, review, and pass it on.

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A hard conversation worth having: we sit down with retired Army Lieutenant Colonel Daniel Gade to examine how the VA disability system, built with noble intent, can trap veterans in dependency and distort how America sees its warriors. Drawing on his combat wounds, hospital experience, academic work, and policy roles, Daniel makes a clear distinction between having a condition and becoming that condition—and shows how incentives, ratings, and advocacy ecosystems can push veterans toward the latter.

We trace why claimed conditions increased across generations even as sustained direct combat remained limited for most. Daniel explains the politics behind expanding the VA Schedule for Rating Disabilities and why ratings like sleep apnea at 50% undermine public trust when compared to losing an eye or a below-knee amputation. He challenges the emotional “1% served” shield, arguing that service is a voluntary civic duty already compensated with pay and benefits, not a lifetime blank check on taxpayers.

Most importantly, we focus on fixes. Daniel proposes linking mental health compensation to active treatment so care drives recovery rather than pay driving identity. He urges redefining disability to align with activities of daily living and high standards like SSDI, while shifting resources from marginal payouts to high-impact transition: SkillBridge access without command vetoes, employer pipelines, reskilling, and entrepreneurship. We discuss how work sustains identity, how Individual Unemployability can backfire, and why every dubious claim delays care for those with amputations, TBI, sexual assault trauma, and acute PTSD.

If you care about veterans’ dignity, purpose, and long-term outcomes, this conversation offers a roadmap that prioritizes treatment, transition, and true service-connected disability. Listen, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave a review with the reform you’d implement first.

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