S8 - Chapter 5: Empathy

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This chapter/episode explores empathy as a core human capacity that evolved to support connection, community, and relationship. True empathy involves a dynamic system of cognition (understanding), emotion (sharing in the feeling), and behavior (responding in a way that reflects care and connection). It is foundational to all relational work—knowing, connecting, and strengthening the partnership.

Brian reflects on his early misuse of empathy, where hyper-attunement to others' emotions was driven by fear, shame, and a desire to manage emotional threat. This self-protective "empathy-like" behavior was rooted in emotional management and codependent survival strategies. The turning point came in his relationship with Stephanie. By choosing to stay present in moments of shame and discomfort, he began to use empathy functionally rather than performatively. This shift allowed for deeper connection and trust. Now, empathy is a too, used not to manage others' feelings, but to understand and respond authentically within an interdependent relationship.

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