S2E12: “Sealed with a Mess: Why Kissing Can Be Magic… or a Total Red Flag”

Dateable AF Show Notes:

Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Let’s talk about the kiss — that tiny moment that can make your whole world vibrate… or make you immediately regret life choices. 😬

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel get up close (but not too close) to explore why kissing matters so much — and how it can reveal way more about your connection than you think.

We cover: 💋 Why kissing really matters — from the science of attraction and bonding to what it says about your relationship health. 🧠 The psychology + biology of kissing — how dopamine, oxytocin, and 80 million bacteria all play a role in that spark (or lack of it). ❤️ What makes a good kiss great — synchrony, safety, chemistry, and emotional attunement. 🚩 When kissing is a red flag — what a “meh” kiss can signal about compatibility, communication, or emotional distance. 🗣️ Technique, consent, and communication — why good kissing isn’t about moves, it’s about mutual energy and comfort. 💡 Practical takeaways:

• Make time for a “just because” kiss — no agenda.
• If kisses feel flat, ask, “What’s shifted between us?”
• Celebrate the small kisses; they keep connection alive.

Because kissing isn’t just foreplay — it’s feedback. And when it’s good, it’s magic.

💭 Discussion Prompts

• What’s the best kiss you’ve ever had — and what made it memorable?
• Have you ever noticed kissing losing its spark — what changed?
• How does kissing fit into your sense of intimacy or connection?

Share your stories (anonymously if you’d like!) on Instagram or by email — your story might be featured in an upcoming AFterparty episode. 💌

🎧 Next week: We’re diving into something special Stay tuned!

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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