S2 EP46 | Why Change Is Hard (Even When You Want It)

In this episode of The Mentium Podcast, I address a truth many people experience but rarely talk about: change feels hard even when you genuinely want it.

After deciding to act on your goals, values, or intentions, resistance often shows up — fatigue, inconsistency, doubt, and frustration. Many people interpret this as failure and quietly give up.

This episode reframes that struggle and offers a powerful message: difficulty is not a sign you’re failing — it’s a sign you’re in the process.

What You’ll Learn

• Why wanting change doesn’t make it easy
• The myth that “real change should feel natural”
• How comfort and familiarity pull us back
• Why falling off doesn’t mean you failed
• Why motivation is unreliable — and what works better
• How identity and structure support consistency
• Why change affects relationships, not just habits
• How to work with resistance instead of fighting it

Key Insights

• Struggle is part of transition, not proof of weakness
• Falling off is normal — staying off is the real issue
• Comfort has gravity, even when it’s unhealthy
• Consistency is about returning, not perfection
• Compassion keeps you in the process longer than pressure

Perfect For You If…

• You’ve tried to change and felt discouraged
• You feel inconsistent despite strong intentions
• You’re tired of self-blame
• You want to understand resistance instead of fighting it
• You want sustainable growth, not burnout

Reflection Prompt

Where in your life have you mistaken resistance for failure?