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What happens when your manager treats their job like Gollum from Lord of the Rings – clutching tasks while muttering "my precious"? Sarah Vaughn Benjamin knows exactly how this feels.

During her seven-year journey from academia to corporate HR, Sarah encountered the classic territorial boss who demanded help yet refused to delegate meaningful work. "I was just stuck," she recalls, describing how her manager claimed ownership with the chilling words: "It's my department." This stark example of leadership insecurity left Sarah feeling underutilized despite being repeatedly told she was "a rock star" – a phrase that now makes her cringe.

The conversation takes a fascinating turn as Sarah reveals how COVID-19 became her unexpected catalyst for change. Furloughed and uncertain, she leveraged social media to connect with others who had pivoted careers, ultimately transforming her student life experience into a corporate learning and development role. Her resourcefulness demonstrates how career transitions often require both careful skill mapping and the courage to leap into uncertainty.

Now an HR Business Partner, Sarah shares a profound insight from her therapist: "You can't work in HR and be a sponge. You have to be a mirror." This powerful metaphor captures the delicate balance HR professionals must strike – reflecting situations back to managers rather than absorbing all the emotional weight themselves. When managers avoid difficult conversations or create unnecessary barriers for employees, HR must help navigate these challenges while maintaining organizational integrity.

The episode concludes with practical advice for listeners dealing with career-blocking bosses or suspected "quiet firing." Sarah and host Natalie emphasize the importance of documenting patterns, asking direct questions, and paying attention to how managers respond. Whether you're facing a territorial boss or fighting for professional growth, this conversation provides the strategies you need to maintain your dignity while advancing your career path. Remember: disappointment often stems from misaligned expectations – but you have the power to clarify yours.

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