Rewriting Your Sex Script: Letting Go of Performance and Reclaiming Pleasure with Ian Kerner

So, tell me about the last time you had sex…

In this episode, I had the privilege of interviewing New York Times bestselling author and sex therapist Ian Kerner, whose books She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex have deeply influenced how I think about pleasure, intimacy, and sexual connection. Ian joins me for a grounded, refreshing conversation about sex scripts, performance pressure, desire, and why so many people feel disconnected from pleasure even when they’re doing everything “right.”

We talk about

• sex scripts and how they quietly shape desire and arousal

• performance anxiety and why it shuts down pleasure

• receiving pleasure without feeling like you have to perform

• why intercourse-centric sex limits intimacy

• psychological arousal, fantasy, and creating the right conditions for desire

• how communication becomes a form of foreplay

If you’ve been craving intimacy that feels less pressured, more connected, and actually pleasurable, this episode offers a new way to understand what great sex really requires.

Connect with Ian Kerner

Website: https://www.iankerner.com/

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