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Episode 83: Your Incarnation Cross is Your Purpose- So Why Isn't The Internet Talking About It? [Summer Shorts Series]

What if your purpose wasn’t something you had to figure out—but something that’s been encoded in your energy all along? In this episode of Return, Caitlan cracks open one of Human Design’s juiciest secrets: the Incarnation Cross.

WTF is an Incarnation Cross anyways? It’s your energetic blueprint for impact, drawn from the gates of your conscious and unconscious Sun and Earth. Caitlan walks you through what your type of cross says about how you’re here to serve, lead, and evolve—whether your path is personal, collective, or deeply fixed (hello, Juxtaposition crew).

She also shares her own Incarnation Cross of Service and how it plays out in her biz, her boundaries, and her soul assignments. This episode is your permission slip to start r e t u r n i n g.

*Discounted Human Design Reading for the First 3 Listeners to Book* This is the only way to access this offer. Click here.

Want to work with Caitlan? Book a 90 minute IFS & Human DesignDeep Dive Session Here!

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✨ WTF the Incarnation Cross is (and why it matters)
✨ The 3 types of destiny paths in Human Design
✨ How to decode your energetic GPS using your gates
✨ The difference between personal, transpersonal, and fixed life purpose
✨ How Caitlan’s own cross impacts her business + identity
✨ Why this tool brings way more clarity than another vision board

Key Takeaways:

• Your Incarnation Cross = your life purpose in energetic form
• It’s created from the 4 most powerful gates in your chart
• 192 unique crosses exist—and they’re not one-size-fits-all
• Right Angle = your story. Left Angle = others’ stories. Juxtaposition = straight-line fate.
• This tool isn’t just deep—it’s practical (especially if you’re building a biz that feels like you)

Chapters:
00:00 – WTF is the Incarnation Cross?
02:22 – Where to find yours + what it’s made of
05:28 – Right Angle Crosses = Me, Myself, and I (in the best way)
09:04 – Left Angle Crosses = The “We” mission
12:40 – Juxtaposition = The cosmic through-line
13:31 – Caitlan gets personal: Cross of Service in real life
17:48 – Now what? Your next steps

Links & Resources:

Learn more about working with Caitlan: www.caitlansiegenthaler.com

Follow Caitlan on Instagram: @caitlansiegenthaler

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Episode 82: Your High Achieving Parts & How To Get Them to Stop Chasing Gold Stars [Summer Shorts Series]

Welcome to Summer Shorts, a new mini-series on Return where we get straight to good stuff in 20 minutes or less. In today’s episode, Caitlan kicks things off with a deep (but digestible) dive into Internal Family Systems and the high achieving part of us that’s always chasing gold stars.

You’ll learn how to recognize when this part is running the show, how to unblend so you can breathe again, and why gratitude—not grit—might be the missing ingredient in your healing. Caitlan also shares how Human Design and IFS can come together to support more grounded decision-making, with a sneak peek at what’s coming next in the series.

*Discounted Human Design Reading for the First 3 Listeners to Book* This is the only way to access this offer. Click here.

Want to work with Caitlan? Book a 90 minute IFS & Human DesignDeep Dive Session Here!

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• What “unblending” actually means—and why it matters for your peace
• The sneaky ways high achieving parts hijack your nervous system
• How to spot your high achiever’s energy in your body
• Why naming parts creates distance, clarity, and compassion
• How gratitude can help soften internal pressure
• Why curiosity is your best tool for healing (not self-criticism)
• How to invite more voices into your decision-making process
• What’s coming up next in the Summer Shorts series

Key Takeaways:

• High achievers are often praised, but they’re not always leading from peace.
• Creating space from your high achieving part helps you hear your true self.
• Unblending is not bypassing—it’s a step toward self-leadership.
• Gratitude can regulate your system and build trust with protective parts.
• Healing isn’t about silencing parts—it’s about listening to all of them.

Chapters:
00:00 – Welcome to Summer Shorts
00:55 – Meet Your High Achiever Part
05:45 – How to Unblend (Without Ghosting Your Goals)
15:22 – What's Next in the Series

Links & Resources:

• Learn more about working with Caitlan: www.caitlansiegenthaler.com
• Follow Caitlan on Instagram: @caitlansiegenthaler

If this episode hit home, leave a review and send it to a friend who’s also ready to unhook from hustle mode. And don’t forget—every week for the rest of July, we’re dropping bite-sized episodes to help you return to yourself, one part at a time.

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Episode 81: "Say the damn thing!"- Emelie Sanders

In this episode of Return, Caitlan Siegenthaler is joined by Emilie Sanders. Emelie is the wip-smart, queso-loving copy strategist behind Pass the Queso. From flipping thrifted clothes to flipping the script on how we write and sell, Emilie brings the kind of wisdom we all wish everyone had on the internet.

They get into everything from motherhood and marketing to why clarity beats cleverness—and how the best copy doesn’t try to sound smart, it just sounds like you. If your messaging feels a little “meh,” your brand voice is on mute, or you’ve got 27 abandoned email drafts in your notes app… this episode will hit. Plus, you might lol so hard your cat will wonder what is really going on in your headphones.

Book your discounted Human Design reading with Caitlan here. [First come, first served and capped at 3 people so don't sleep.]

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why clarity in messaging beats cleverness
• How to use humor in your copy without losing your edge
• The underrated power of iteration (and what it really looks like)
• Why building a brand you like matters more than “the algorithm”
• How Emily uses productized newsletters to grow her list (and income)
• What to prioritize as a mom, entrepreneur, and human with limited hours

Key Takeaways:

• Iteration is the heartbeat of a growing business
• “Say the damn thing”—authenticity always wins
• You don’t need to be everywhere; you need to be clear
• Branding is an inside job
• Let your messaging evolve as you evolve

Chapters:
00:00 – Introduction to Emily Sanders and Her Journey
02:52 – From Reselling to Copywriting: The Evolution
05:59 – The Importance of Iteration in Business
08:58 – Finding Your Unique Voice in Copywriting
11:49 – The Power of Humor in Marketing
14:43 – Building a Brand: Pass the Queso
17:47 – Copywriting Tips for Beginners
20:44 – The Role of Community in Business
23:32 – Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways
26:48 – The Power of Direct Communication
30:51 – Crafting Compelling Emails
36:08 – The Art of Productized Newsletters
40:53 – Balancing Motherhood and Entrepreneurship
46:47 – Returning to Yourself: Self-Care and Identity

Links & Resources:

• Work with Emelie: passthequeso.com
• Grab Caitlan’s free Human Design & IFS mini-course: caitlansiegenthaler.com/resources
• The Return Podcast is edited by Mike Sims

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"Stop measuring your success by energy used."

Episode 80: Human Design & Burnout: Why Certain Work Exhausts Projectors, Manifestors & Reflectors

If you’ve ever wondered “Why can’t I just keep up like everyone else?”—this one’s for you. In this solo episode, Caitlan Siegenthaler unpacks the invisible pressure of hustle culture and why it hits energy-sensitive entrepreneurs hardest.

You’ll learn how Human Design can explain your burnout, help you release the guilt around rest, and show you how to work with your energy—not against it. Whether you're a Projector, Manifestor, or Reflector (or serve them), this is a must-listen for building a business that doesn’t drain your soul.

*Discounted Human Design Reading for the First 3 Listeners to Book* This is the only way to access this offer. Click here.

What You'll Learn:

• Why you’re not broken for needing more rest
• How hustle culture feeds burnout (especially for energy-sensitive types)
• The biggest shifts Projectors, Manifestors & Reflectors need to thrive
• How to rebuild self-worth beyond productivity
• What it looks like to build your business around your energy type

Chapters:
00:00 – Why this episode matters
02:08 – Capitalism, worth & why we feel lazy
06:21 – Energy types in Human Design: a breakdown
12:14 – What deconditioning actually looks like
16:25 – Challenges + gifts of Projectors, Manifestors & Reflectors
35:52 – Your energy is the offer
38:19 – Making your business work for you
45:07 – Final words & where to go from here

Links & Resources:

• Connect with Caitlan:
  • Website
  • Instagram
• Book a 90 Minute Deep Dive Session Here
• Next Level Decisions Free Podcast Sign Up Here
• Apply for 1:1 mentorship: caitlansiegenthaler.com/biz-mentorship
• Podcast Editor: Mike Sims

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If you're done forcing strategies that burn you out and ready to build a business that actually honors your energy—this is your sign. Apply for the Return Biz Mentorship here and let's build it your way.

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"Trust your feelings & verify."

Episode 79: Overthinking, Dating & Decision-Making with Shelby Alkire

In this episode of Return, Caitlan Siegenthaler sits down with Shelby Alkire to unpack the tangled web of overthinking in dating and relationships. From second-guessing every text to carrying the weight of past wounds, they explore how trauma, social media, and self-doubt shape how we show up in love.

They also dive into Human Design as a powerful tool for understanding your decision-making style—especially if you have emotional authority—and how to make more aligned, self-trusting choices in relationships. This conversation is equal parts validating and empowering for anyone who’s ever felt stuck in their head when it comes to matters of the heart.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why overthinking feels so familiar in dating
• How trauma and self-doubt drive patterns of over-analysis

• The role social media plays in distorting our relationship expectations

• How to balance intentionality with fun when dating

• How Human Design supports clearer, more confident decision-making

• The difference between emotional, sacral, splenic, and self-projected authority

• Why low-stakes decision-making practice is a game changer

• What it means to trust yourself in love

💌 Sign up for the July 14th Dating Workshop with Caitlan & Shelby:

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Chapters:
02:57 – Understanding Overthinking Patterns
06:10 – The Divergence of Dating Paths
08:57 – Balancing Intentionality and Fun
11:58 – The Impact of Social Media
14:53 – Human Design & Overthinking
17:46 – The Role of Trauma in Dating
21:00 – Recognizing Relationship Patterns
23:55 – Self-Doubt & Decision Paralysis
27:00 – Human Design in Practice
29:20 – How Decision-Making Authority Works
36:16 – Exploring Authority Types
44:54 – Applying Human Design to Relationships
51:18 – Building Trust Through Daily Practice

Connect with Shelby:

• Shelby's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelbychantilly/

  Shelby's Website:

https://shelbychantilly.com/about

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Episode 78: "I had to be quiet to stay safe" -Jalon Johnson

What happens when the quiet kid grows up to hold space for healing on a mic? In this episode of Return, Caitlan sits down with Jalon Johnson—host of the Not Your Ordinary Parts podcast—for a powerful conversation on childhood wounds, emotional healing, and what it means to truly come home to yourself.

Jalon opens up about his journey through imposter syndrome, anxiety, and the unspoken grief that shaped his early life. He shares how therapy and Internal Family Systems (IFS) helped him understand his parts, redefine masculinity, and embrace vulnerability as a strength—not a liability.

This is an episode about crying for the first time after a year of silence. About the bravery of setting boundaries even when it costs you old relationships. And about the radical truth that healing is your birthright.

Whether you’re new to therapy, navigating inner child work, or exploring your voice in a louder world—this one’s for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• • How childhood survival strategies shape adult relationships
  • Why imposter syndrome sticks around (even after success)
  • The role of podcasting as a tool for healing and expression
  • How IFS therapy can help you meet your inner child with compassion
  • What it means to be emotionally available and masculine
  • Why authenticity is the true path to connection and self-acceptance

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  Chapters:
  00:00 — Introduction and Imposter Syndrome
  03:03 — Childhood Experiences and Sensitivity
  05:50 — The Role of Anxiety in Personal Growth
  08:48 — Podcasting as a Healing Journey
  11:48 — Holding Space for Others14:55 — Navigating Boundaries and Relationships
  17:58 — The Impact of Therapy on Personal Growth
  20:58 — Courage to Seek Help
  23:51 — The Journey of Healing and Authenticity
  33:13 — The Journey of Self-Acceptance
  39:23 — Understanding Internal Family Systems
  46:17 — The Importance of Therapy
  50:43 — Redefining Masculinity
  01:01:08 — Returning to the True Self

  
  

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  Connect with Jalon:

• • Listen to Jalon’s podcast: Not Your Ordinary Parts

• • Follow Jalon on Instagram: @notyourordinaryparts

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Episode 77: How to Build a Business That Fits (Without Burning Out): Lessons from a Former Meta Exec

What happens when you leave big tech, trust your gut, and build a business that’s as intentional as it is innovative? In this episode of Return, Caitlan Siegenthaler sits down with Anya Cheng—founder of Taelor.Style—an AI-powered menswear rental service changing the game in sustainable fashion. From launching Facebook Shopping to disrupting the fashion industry with heart and strategy, Anya shares what it takes to stay aligned while building something bold. This is a conversation about energy, empathy, and unapologetically owning your magic.

Anya opens up about navigating doubt, honoring your energy cycles, and how understanding human behavior (not just data) leads to real innovation. Whether you're feeling scattered, pivoting, or searching for clarity in your own business—this one will remind you that sustainable success starts with returning to yourself.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How Anya transitioned from Meta to her own AI startup

• Why customer-centric thinking outperforms flashy branding

• What role empathy plays in both business and personal relationships

• How to focus when your brain wants to chase all the ideas

• The underestimated power of writing things down (yes, really)

• Why your energy source matters more than your productivity hacks

Key Takeaways:

• Self-doubt is part of the entrepreneurial path—clarity comes from movement.

• Real magic happens when you trust your unique gifts.

• Integrity > algorithms

• Energy is personal. Don’t copy someone else’s morning routine.

• Customer feedback isn’t just nice to have—it’s the roadmap.

• Empathy and genuine relationships open unexpected doors.

• Your story, your upbringing, your essence—they’re all part of your magic.

Chapters:
00:00 – Introduction to Anya Cheng and Her Journey
03:07 – Overcoming Doubt in Entrepreneurship
06:06 – Strategic Frameworks for Problem Solving
08:54 – Understanding Customer Needs
11:56 – Sustainability in Fashion and Business Insights
15:05 – Collaboration and Community in Business
17:56 – Finding Inspiration Through Connection
20:56 – The Power of Genuine Relationships
24:02 – Navigating Challenges and Staying Authentic
29:03 – Navigating Relationships and Empathy
31:24 – Finding Energy and Inspiration
35:41 – The Birth of Taelor
39:22 – Customer-Centric Decision Making
44:05 – Balancing Work and Personal Energy
47:15 – Returning to Self and Connection

Links & Resources:

Anya Cheng is the Founder and CEO of Taelor, a leading men's clothing subscription service that provides personal styling and curated rentals, powered by expert stylists and AI. A Girls in Tech 40 Under 40 honoree, she previously led eCommerce and digital innovation teams at Meta, eBay, Target, and McDonald's.
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“The Akashic Records are like the library of your soul.” -Jennifer Spor

#76: WTF are the Akashic Records?

What happens when the life you thought you wanted starts to feel like a cage? In this soul-shaking episode of Return, Caitlan is joined by Jennifer Spor—spiritual coach, Akashic Records expert, and former corporate powerhouse—who walked away from the boardroom and into her purpose.

Together, they dive deep into spiritual awakenings, navigating major life transitions, and how the library of your soul (aka the Akashic Records) can guide you back to yourself. If you’ve ever wondered what it looks like to actually trust your inner voice—or what happens when you do—this conversation is your sign.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• What a spiritual awakening actually feels like (it’s not all crystal baths and light codes)

• How to decode synchronicities and gut feelings without gaslighting yourself

• Why the Akashic Records are the most underrated tool for spiritual guidance and self-discovery

• How to stop "dating" your purpose and marry it already

• Meditation, courage, and connecting with your future self

• Practical ways to use intuition and spiritual tools to transform your career or business

Timestamps & Topics Covered:
00:00 – Meet Jennifer: From corporate grind to soul-led guide
05:07 – The moment everything shifted (aka her spiritual wake-up call)
09:52 – Fear, courage & the sacred WTF of big life changes
15:01 – Synchronicities, breadcrumbs & divine detours
20:12 – WTF are the Akashic Records (and why you might want to open yours)
24:52 – How to access your soul’s guidance without getting lost in the woo
30:06 – Using your spiritual gifts in business (yes, even if you’re a strategist or coach)
34:53 – Final reflections, resources, and your invitation to return to you

Resources & Links:

• Find Jennifer at: https://www.jenniferspor.com

• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @jennifer.spor

• Book your own Return Deep Dive: caitlansiegenthaler.com

• Editor: Mike Sims:https://www.instagram.com/mikerobsims/

Don't forget....Still waiting for the “right” time to make that change? Jennifer’s story is proof that trusting your intuition isn’t reckless—it’s revolutionary.
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