Regression Is a Message: What’s the Child Really Telling You?

In this episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker reframes a common concern faced by parents, teachers, and carers: regression. Whether you’re supporting a child, an adult with learning disabilities, or someone living with dementia, it can be heartbreaking and frustrating to watch progress unravel.

But what if that step back is actually a call for connection—not control? Andy explains the psychology behind regression and why understanding it as a signal of distress can lead to more compassionate, effective support.

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💬 3 Key Messages:

1. Regression is not rebellion. It's a safety signal, often triggered by overwhelm, trauma, or change.

2. All behaviour is communication. Ask what’s changed, rather than punish what you see.

3. Connection is the cure. A trusting relationship rebuilds confidence, regulation, and growth.

⏳ Timestamps – Episode Chapters: [00:00] – “He was doing so well…”: Recognising regression [00:46] – Sponsor Message: Carers Card UK [01:54] – Welcome & What Regression Really Means [03:33] – Real-World Example: Charlie and Alex [04:46] – Early Years, Learning Disability & Dementia Contexts [05:52] – The Brain Forest Analogy [07:42] – Behaviour as Communication: Ask what’s changed [08:47] – Why “You’re too old for this” harms, not helps [09:39] – Building Emotional Safety: Regression needs support [10:40] – Stability, Routines, and Rebuilding Trust [11:07] – Think Like They’re 3: Emotional age vs chronological age [12:27] – Suppression vs Self-Management [12:37] – Final Thoughts: Trust over punishment

🎧 Why Listen to This Episode? If you’ve ever felt confused or frustrated when someone suddenly “slips backwards,” this episode will change your perspective. Learn why regression is rarely about manipulation and often about safety—and discover practical ways to support growth through compassion. Perfect for carers, educators, and parents who want to understand behaviour deeply and respond with empathy.

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