Redefining "Good Mom" On Our Own Terms

Every mom has asked the question: Am I a good mom? But what happens when we stop measuring ourselves against social media highlight reels, outdated generational ideals, or the opinions of strangers—and instead define "good mom" on our own terms?

In this episode, we open up about the pressures of motherhood, the comparison traps we’ve faced, and the courage it takes to parent differently than the generations before us. From messy adventures that never make it to Instagram, to breaking cycles of dysfunction and learning to repair after hard moments, we share real stories and hard-earned truths about embracing motherhood authentically.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re enough, this episode is for you.

QUOTES

“There’s no badge of honor for doing it the hard way if it’s also the harmful way.” —Katelynn

“We only post the highlight reel. We don’t talk about the mud and the meltdowns—and yet we compare ourselves to what we see online.” —Annie

“Just because it worked then doesn’t mean it's right now. Parenting evolves. And so do we.” —Katelynn

“A good mom protects her peace over perfection.” — Annie

TAKEAWAYS

1️⃣ Social media highlight reels don’t tell the whole story. Behind every perfect post are messy, real-life moments.

2️⃣ The generational comparison game is exhausting—and it’s okay to break cycles while still honoring where you came from.

3️⃣ Being a good mom isn’t about perfection; it’s about repair, listening, and showing up for your kids.

4️⃣ Your kids don’t need a picture-perfect version of you—they need you.

5️⃣ If you’re worried about being a good mom, it’s proof that you already are.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

🥔 Best Potato Soup Recipe — Mama Loves Food

🥗 Big Mac Salad (Cheeseburger in a Bowl) — Iowa Girl Eats

FEATURED CHAOS ANTHEM

Count on Me by Bruno Mars

This feel-good anthem from Bruno Mars is a reminder that none of us are meant to do motherhood alone. Count on Me celebrates the kind of friendship and support we all need—whether it’s another mom in the trenches, a partner, or your kids reminding you why you show up every day. Let it be your soundtrack when you need to remember that being a “good mom” isn’t about perfection—it’s about connection.

🎧 You can find it (and all our episode anthems) on The Chaos Commanders: Season One playlists available on Apple Music, Spotify, and Amazon Music.

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