We’ve all had those days; smiling, nodding, doing all the “right” things on the outside, while inside we’re just trying to keep it together.

In this episode, I open up about what people don’t see behind the smile. The grief. The exhaustion. The late-night crying after content creation. The parenting breakdowns. The pressure to be the strong one. It’s raw, it’s real, and it’s something so many of us carry in silence.

This isn’t about pretending to be okay. It’s about honoring the truth: that strength isn’t always loud, and sometimes the bravest thing we do is just show up.

We’ll also talk about what it means to be layered and how you can be joyful and grieving, healing and hurting, all at once. And I’ll share how navigating Oliver’s loss shifted the way I approach content, community, and honesty.

If your strength feels like survival right now, I see you. You’re not alone...and you don’t have to explain what people never bothered to ask about in the first place.

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At some point, I stopped auditioning for rooms I didn’t even want to be in...and that’s when everything changed.

In this episode, I’m sharing what it really means to step into your grown woman energy. No more over-explaining. No more apologizing for being too loud, too sensitive, too much.

From parenting and partnerships to boundaries and grief, I talk about the messy, misunderstood, and powerful moments that shaped me and how I finally stopped seeking permission to be myself.

I’ll also share an honest story about co-parenting with my ex, why I stopped defending how I grieve, and what peace over performance actually looks like in my life.

We wrap with a special Oliver’s Light tribute—because today is the 29th, and every 29th, we wear blue for Ollie. 💙

This episode is for every woman who’s tired of shrinking to fit. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for how you survive, how you love, or how you show up.

Someone once told me I’d go further if I just “toned it down.” Less opinions. Less visibility. Less… me. And for a minute? I believed them.

In this episode, I’m sharing the moment that planted self-doubt, how it almost made me walk away from everything I’ve built, and the community that reminded me my “too much” was never the problem.

If you’ve ever been told to shrink yourself, this one’s for you.

We’ll talk about:
– The early advice that hit the hardest– Crying over content and almost quitting– How mentorship went wrong—and what saved me– Why the world doesn’t need a quieter version of you– And the power of being unapologetically seen

Plus, in this week’s Oliver’s Light segment, I share the messages that keep pouring in from other grieving families—and why saying his name matters.

Thanks for tuning in! And Make sure you 🎧 listen on these platforms:

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justtheblendedwells/

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candace.monicaa

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