REPLAY - Put Yourself In Their Shoes - MAC073

Hello everyone, and welcome back to the podcast. I hope you're enjoying the holiday season and taking some time to recharge. I'm doing the same this week—stepping back for a little rest—but I didn't want to leave you without an episode. So, I'm bringing back one of the most impactful conversations we've had on this show: Episode 73, Put Yourself In Their Shoes. It's all about one of the most underrated skills you can develop for both your career and even everyday life: the ability to understand the motivations of the people around you. It's not necessarily about agreeing with them; it's about seeing the world through their lens long enough to understand what's driving them. And when you do that, you unlock a whole new level of influence, collaboration, and trust. This episode isn't just theory—it's a toolkit. And if you put it into practice, you'll find yourself building stronger networks, closing gaps in communication, and creating opportunities that might have felt out of reach before. So, as you listen today, I encourage you to think about the people you interact with most—your coworkers, your boss, your clients, even your friends and family. Ask yourself: What might be motivating them? What pressures are they under? How could I adjust my approach if I saw things from their perspective? I'll leave you with this thought before we dive in: empathy isn't just a soft skill. It's a power skill. It's the difference between pushing against resistance and moving with momentum. And this episode shows you how to harness it. And now…..on to the episode. When it comes to dealing with people, it can be difficult when they don't share the same opinion you do as to how to handle a specific situation and that can often lead to conflict or complications. The fastest way to move past those differences and get back to moving forward is to put yourself in their shoes. If you can understand people's thoughts and motivations it goes a long way towards formulating an argument that sways them to your side. How well can you read them? Some people will mask their true thoughts and feelings, especially when it comes to professional relationships. To really understand them you might need to rely on your observational skills and not just listen to the words that they say. Start with how they are speaking. When someone is excited about something, even if they are trying to suppress it, they will speak slightly faster and with a higher pitch. Conversely, if they are unsure, they will slow down and be more cautious as they speak. Even their word choices can give you a clue as to their mindset. Open language will indicate a higher level of trust. Strong, clear language indicating confidence. If you find that their words are not in alignment with their body language, it becomes even more important to observe them closely. Visually, watch their body language and look for micro expressions that may clue you in to something that they aren't saying. Whether they are smiling genuinely or politely says a lot. Is their stance closed with their arms crossed or are they open and receptive or possibly even leaning in with excitement? When you say something new, is there a flash of humor or anger in the corners of their eyes? Some of these visual cues will be easier to spot, but the more nuanced actions can be more revealing. In general, people are not malicious in their actions, but, the actions they take may come across that way. For instance, I have seen multiple times where Person A feels like Person B is purposefully undermining the ability for Person A to perform work. But, in reality, Person B is just focused on taking steps that they think will let them reach their personal goals that they never even considered how that could impact Person A. Once Person A sat down and spoke with Person B and everyone's views were communicated, both people were able to be more productive and reach their goals quickly. The easiest path to knowing someone's motivations is to come out and ask them. But, sometimes, you don't have that type of relationship with them and it may take a little bit of detective work. For example, how have their current projects been going recently? If positively, their mood probably reflects that. Though if they are experiencing project stress, they may be taking it out on everyone around them. The "no" to your request may be coming from this type of stress more than anything else. Looking for these types of factors can help you find the motivations of someone that you would not ask directly. No matter how you gain the insight, how can you use this understanding to your advantage? When you understand someone, you can build a stronger relationship with them. Stronger relationships lead to stronger networks. And I can't stress enough how powerful a strong network can be. (https://...