Gay men are often told sex and spirit live in separate zip codes. In this crossover episode, Darren brings together two powerhouse guides -- Kaelan Strouse (spiritual coach/author) and Andreas Anthony (tantra + psychic work) -- to unpack how to heal the split between **sexuality and spirituality**. We talk shame, heart-centered pleasure, practical practices (yes, including solo ones), and how to cultivate intimacy that actually nourishes.

RESOURCES

Kaelan Strouse: https://ecstaticself.com/

Andreas Anthony: https://www.andreasembodiment.com/

Darren Main https://darrenmain.net/follow

Q-MindBody Resources & Community

https://darrenmain.net/qmb-connect

The Gay Men’s Sangha https://www.darrenmain.com/gay-mens-yoga-sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness https://gaywellness.com/qmindbody-podcast

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Why do so many gay men feel blocked creatively—and how do we unleash that spark? Darren Main sits down with teacher and writer David Montecalvo to explore the surprising link between sexuality, authenticity, and creativity.

Discover how coming out can unlock hidden inspiration, why reclaiming your inner child matters, and simple tools that free your creative voice. Plus, David shares his work with gay men’s spirituality and how living authentically fuels both art and healing.

👉 Don’t just be out—be creative, bold, and unapologetically you.

Resources & Links:

David’s Website: https://www.davidmonticalvo.com/

Q-MindBody Resources & Community https://darrenmain.net/qmb-connect

Connect with Darren Main https://darrenmain.net/follow

The Gay Men’s Sangha https://www.darrenmain.com/gay-mens-yoga-sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness https://gaywellness.com/qmindbody-podcast

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Sex counselor **Finn Deerhart** joins Darren to unpack what it _really_ means to "get to naked." From hookup culture and body shame to emotional intimacy and erotic authenticity, this conversation goes deep. Finn also shares about his upcoming memoir and the journey from closeted minister to sex-positive guide.

Resources & Links:

Finn's Website: https://www.finndeerhart.com/

Finn's Substack: https://finndeerhart.substack.com/

Q-MindBody Resources & Community https://darrenmain.net/qmb-connect

Connect with Darren Main https://darrenmain.net/follow

The Gay Men’s Sangha https://www.darrenmain.com/gay-mens-yoga-sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness https://gaywellness.com/qmindbody-podcast

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In this episode of the Q-MindBody Podcast, Darren Main sits down with bestselling author and spiritual teacher Christian de la Huerta, whose groundbreaking book Coming Out Spiritually transformed how gay men view their spiritual path.

Christian returns with his newest book, Conscious Love: How to Transform Your Relationship to Relationships, sharing insights on:

• How to stop repeating painful relationship patterns
• The power of self-love and personal responsibility
• Why forgiveness is essential for freedom and healing
• Practical steps for building conscious, empowering connections

Darren and Christian also reflect on their 30-year friendship, spiritual growth, and the unique gifts LGBTQ+ people bring to the world.

Resources & Links:

Christian’s Website https://theganymedeproject.wordpress.com/

READ: Conscious Love: How to Transform Your Relationship to Relationships https://amzn.to/3H3BVXO

READ: Coming Out Spiritually https://amzn.to/46SmxYT

Q-MindBody Resources & Community https://darrenmain.net/qmb-connect

Connect with Darren Main https://darrenmain.net/follow

The Gay Men’s Sangha https://www.darrenmain.com/gay-mens-yoga-sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness https://gaywellness.com/qmindbody-podcast

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In this episode, Darren Main explores the provocative and often misunderstood topic of daddy issues within gay men’s inner lives and relationships. His guest, Greg—founder of the Ganymede Project and facilitator of the Queer Men's Virtual Dream Circle—shares insights from his essay on the subject, informed by years of Jungian psychoanalysis.

Together, they unpack the archetype of the inner father, age-gap relationships, the erotic and psychological dynamics at play, and how queer men can use self-inquiry and dream work to foster healing and maturity. Expect a mix of intellect, humor, and personal stories that challenge stigma and invite depth.

Resources & Links:

The Ganymede Project (Greg’s essays and offerings) https://theganymedeproject.wordpress.com/

Q-MindBody Resources & Community https://darrenmain.net/qmb-connect

Connect with Darren Main https://darrenmain.net/follow

The Gay Men’s Sangha https://www.darrenmain.com/gay-mens-yoga-sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness https://gaywellness.com/qmindbody-podcast

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In this heartfelt episode, Darren Main sits down with a progressive Christian priest and a devoted straight ally to explore the lasting impact of religious trauma on gay, bisexual, and questioning men. Focusing on the wounds inflicted by Christian doctrine and church culture, they offer compassionate insight and embodied practices—like yoga and meditation—that support healing and spiritual reclamation. Whether you're deconstructing your faith or seeking a path toward wholeness, this conversation reminds us that healing is not only possible—it's sacred.

The Rev. Joseph Yoo

Read: When the Saints Go Flying In

Q-MindBody Resources & Community

Connect with Darren Main

The Gay Men’s Sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness

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In this episode of the Q-MindBody podcast, Darren Main sits down with renowned therapist and author Dr. Joe Kort to explore a lesser-known but deeply important identity within gay men's sexuality: the side. Drawing on his groundbreaking book Side Guys, Dr. Kort unpacks the myths and misunderstandings surrounding men who don't identify as tops or bottoms—and instead express themselves through non-penetrative forms of intimacy.

Together, Darren and Dr. Kort discuss the emotional toll of "side shaming" and the importance of community support in dismantling internalized stigma. They also explore how sexual preferences evolve, why outer course deserves more recognition, and how embracing one's authentic orientation can lead to deeper self-acceptance and intimacy.

Whether you're new to the term or deeply familiar, this episode offers a compassionate and eye-opening look into the complexity, beauty, and fluidity of gay men's sexual expression.

RESOURCES

Dr. Joe Kort

Read: Side Guys

Side Guys Facebook Group

Q-MindBody Resources & Community

Connect with Darren Main

The Gay Men’s Sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness

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Emotional maturity, trust, and why biceps aren’t enough—with dating coach Lamont White

In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, Darren Main welcomes back dating coach Lamont White (aka The Gay Dating Coach) for a candid conversation about what it really takes to sustain a long-term gay relationship. They dive into the emotional skills that matter far more than a six-pack—like empathy, self-awareness, and trust—and why so many of us struggle to build lasting intimacy. Lamont also shares insights from his coaching and matchmaking work, his spicy weekly dating show “Shoot Your Shot Wednesday,” and his belief that emotional compatibility is the real key to queer love. Whether you're dating, partnered, or happily single, this episode will challenge and inspire you to show up more authentically in love.

RESOURCES

Lamont White, A Better Way to Meet

Darren’s interview on Lamont’s Podcast

Q-MindBody Resources & Community

Connect with Darren Main

The Gay Men’s Sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness

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