Putting Yourself First: You Can Do It With Love and Empathy — It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Jerk

Many men lose themselves in marriage by always saying yes, avoiding conflict, and ignoring their own needs. They believe self-sacrifice equals love. But over time, this leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection. The truth? Putting yourself first does not make you selfish — it makes you honest, present, and stronger for your family.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains how to stop people-pleasing without becoming cold or harsh. You’ll hear the story of a husband who went from disappearing in his own life to leading with calm strength and empathy — and how you can do the same.

What you’ll learn in this video:
✔️ Why putting yourself last is hurting your marriage and self-respect
✔️ How people-pleasing is based on fear, not love
✔️ The story of a man who went from passive and invisible to calm and present
✔️ How to meet the younger part of you that learned to perform for approval
✔️ Why your marriage needs the real you, not a yes-man
✔️ Steps from The Secure Husband Process to set boundaries with clarity and compassion
✔️ How to honor your truth without turning into a jerk

You don’t have to abandon yourself to keep peace in your home. You can be kind and empathetic while still respecting your needs. This shift doesn’t just help you — it helps your marriage grow stronger.

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If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

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