Our friends Jim & Sarah have an interesting approach to date night: Make love first.

Here are a few reasons why:

It removes the build-up and the pressure.

You’re energetic and excited.

And it sets the tone for the rest of the night.

Plus, you can always “go back for more” if you want.

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Sarah is a licensed counselor and Jim leads a men’s ministry…

AND, they lead married couples groups, workshops, and more TOGETHER.

In fact, long-term, they’re created a retreat center where couples can reconnect and reignite something special (or, nurture what’s already thriving).

Maybe- just maybe— they’re onto something.

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Links referenced

See the GY6 resources, referenced here: www.GY6.online/FG

Upcoming GY6 workshops = www.GY6.online/events

Books Beth & Sarah mentioned

The Great Sex Rescue = https://amzn.to/48g5kIt

31 Days to Great Sex = https://amzn.to/41MNER0

The “Stronger” resource

Free access to the Stronger audiobook = 10 lessons, https://www.jenkins.tv/lead

Purchase the book or eBook = https://www.jenkins.tv/stronger

Coaching

One-to-one personal coaching = https://www.jenkins.tv/PC

I’ve been wrestling with a theory for a few years now— the more I’ve studied PTSD and Moral Injury.

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Here’s the hypothesis: the suicide epidemic is related to Moral Injury primarily— not PTSD.

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For sure, PTSD may play a role…

… but, it’s important to figure this out.

If we’re looking at the WRONG CAUSE, then we’ll create the wrong cure.

And if we create the wrong CURE, we’ll provide a solution that’s largely ineffective.

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Here’s the basis for my theory….

The majority of military suicides occur after the age of 50. Or, to say it another way, time doesn’t heal all wounds— some get more intense. Let me explain…

PTSD symptoms may lesson over time (you learn to cope with the triggers, you find tools that help you navigate life, and/or you adjust). You learn to read + recognize + respond to stressors in healthy ways.

At the same time, the guilt & shame of Moral Injury seem to GROW if not addressed.

Moreover, while they are raising their families, the responsibilities they feel for their families actually keeps many who contemplate suicide from acting upon it.

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Links referenced

See the GY6 resources, referenced here: www.GY6.online/FG

Upcoming GY6 workshops = www.GY6.online/events

Video explainer, Does PTSD really cause suicide? = https://www.gy6.online/blog/suicide

Long description of Moral Injury (compared to PTSD) = https://www.gy6.online/blog/MI

The article referenced in the intro = https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12317004/

And don’t forget about…

www.JuntoTribe.com = Mike & Jim’s ministry for men

www.HolosHP.com = Mike’s organization and coaching

Other, related

Access the Soul Wholeness video course = www.Jenkins.tv/SWV

Grab the digital bundle (eBook + audiobook) = www.Jenkins.tv/SW

Coaching

One-to-one personal coaching = https://www.jenkins.tv/PC

Two things which occur when an event “marks” you…

1️⃣ Stored

The event is stored regardless of your awareness of it in the moment.

2️⃣ Stamped

The stored data includes all of your five senses.

Note, this “stored and stamped” happens for every “elevated” and memorable event— and is why certain sounds (songs) and smells (even seasonal shifts) create instant recall of good memories.

It’s why we begin to not only feel as if we’re back in the same space, but we recall— without trying to think about it— happenings of those moments. And it’s why we begin anticipating and even behaving in similar ways.

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Now, let’s add another layer to it…

Memories aren’t just stamped & stored in your brain, they’re stamped and storied IN YOUR BODY.

Or, to say it the same way a popular book does, “The BODY keeps the score.”

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And that leads to this…

… sometimes, a “flare up” in the body isn’t just a physical issue, it’s a soul-issue. It’s your body telling you that you have unfinished business to deal with.

In the same way a check engine light tells you that something is happening in your vehicle, these “check engine lights” alert us to something in the soul.

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The problem is two-fold…

1️⃣ We often “cover” these alerts instead of addressing the deeper issues.

2️⃣ We sometimes “cause” them…

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Links referenced

See the GY6 resources, referenced here: www.GY6.online/FG

Upcoming GY6 workshops = www.GY6.online/events

And don’t forget about…

www.JuntoTribe.com = Mike & Jim’s ministry for men

www.HolosHP.com = Mike’s organization and coaching

Other, related

See The Healing Workshop, on-demand course = www.Jenkins.tv/THW

Access the Soul Wholeness video course = www.Jenkins.tv/SWV

Grab the digital bundle (eBook + audiobook) = www.Jenkins.tv/SW

Coaching

One-to-one personal coaching = https://www.jenkins.tv/PC