Tammy drops a truth bomb right from the start: Our emotions, not our thoughts, motivate us. This episode is a quick, hard-hitting guide on how your emotions can either drive you forward or keep you and your team stuck in a pattern of limiting beliefs. Tammy provides a four-point framework to help you master self-awareness, manage your emotional triggers, and turn your emotional intelligence into the "entry ticket" for every successful conversation.

• Emotions Win: We move in the direction of the dominant emotion. If you don't own your emotions, they own you and will hijack your team's success.

• The Power Pause: When emotions start to rise, push the pause button, take a breath, and ask the next best question to slow down the spin.

• The Real Raw Material: Emotions are not the enemy; they are the raw material of trust, connection, and performance.

• Words Create Pictures: The language you use creates a visual in your mind, and you attach emotions to that picture, which directly creates your performance. Change the words, change the outcome.

1. Awareness is Your Entry Ticket: Your self-awareness is the entry ticket to every conversation and problem-solving at every level. If you are dysregulated, you cannot be situationally aware of others.

2. Vacancy is as Dangerous as Volatility: Retreating, sitting silent, and vacating a difficult moment is just as damaging to trust as blowing up. It communicates a "No Vacancy" sign that pushes people away.

3. Self-Efficacy Fuels Collective Efficacy: If key players on your team lose the belief that they can succeed (self-efficacy), it bleeds into the whole team's belief (collective efficacy).

4. Words Create Pictures, Pictures Create Performance: Be intentional about the words you and your team use, as the visualizations attached to them pre-determine your results.

• Quote: "Your emotional awareness and ability to handle feelings will actually determine your success and happiness." — John Gottman

• Quote: "If you don't own your emotions, they own you."

• The 24/72 Rule: When hijacked by emotions, utilize the 24-hour push-pause option (or 24/24/24) to process, go back to the conversation, and check in again.

• Your Challenge: Master self-awareness by tuning into your physical and mental triggers (heart rate, gut feeling) before you engage.

Leadership is not a solo sport—it requires self-awareness and emotional awareness. Head on over and subscribe to the Leadership Sandbox channel on YouTube, drop your emoji in the comments, and share this episode with someone who needs an emotional regulator right now.

In the final episode of our 6 Part Series, "Communication Lies Leaders Believe", Tammy delivers a hard truth: some of the support you're giving your team isn't helping—it's enabling. This episode busts the myth that constantly helping will lead to growth and exposes the codependent patterns that can quietly destroy a team's culture. Tammy reveals how over-functioning for your people can lead to burnout among your top talent and a cycle of learned helplessness in your low performers. She provides a reset with 3 clear steps to stop rescuing and start truly empowering your team. Your job is to coach, not to coddle.

• Helping Can Be Hurtful: "Support becomes enablement when you take the responsibility for someone else's growth."

• The Codependent Cycle: You rely on your team to make you feel needed, and they rely on you to fix their problems.

• The High Cost of Coddling: Over-functioning for a low performer can cause your top talent to feel undervalued and lead to a 20% increase in overall turnover.

• Recognize the Signs: You're rescuing instead of leading if you're more invested in solving their problems than they are, or if you feel guilty when they fail.

• Break the Cycle: Coach people forward, not where they're at.

1. Name It and Claim It: Step in and address the pattern directly. Acknowledge that you've been solving their issues and state that it's not sustainable.

2. Give Responsibility Back: Map out what success looks like and make it clear that your role is a resource, not a rescuer.

3. Hold the Line: Set clear boundaries and expectations. If they don't act, don't step in. Let the natural consequences of their inaction play out.

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In this milestone 100th episode, Tammy J. Bond tackles one of the biggest lies leaders tell themselves: that hope is a strategy. She celebrates the podcast's journey and shares why consistency and intentionality, not hope, are what keep a vision alive. This episode, part 5 in the 6 part series, powerfully debunks the myth that optimism or hard work will magically fix dysfunction.

Tammy reveals how relying on hope leads to passivity, sets teams up for disappointment, and creates a culture of reaction instead of intention. She provides a clear, three-step toolkit for replacing passive hope with a proactive leadership strategy that gets results. This is a must-listen for any leader who knows their team can achieve more and is ready to stop wishing and start leading.

• Hope Is Not a Strategy: Relying on hope creates passivity and sets your team up for repeated disappointment and failure.

• The Cost of "Hoping": Harvard Business Review found that teams without clear strategies are three times more likely to fail, even with high morale.

• Where Hope Hides: Hope often hides in your hiring process, performance management, strategic planning, and conflict navigation.

• If Everyone Owns It, No One Owns It: Without clear accountability, goals become everyone's responsibility, leading to finger-pointing and chaos.

• Clarity Beats Chaos Every Time: The only way to move forward is by identifying and naming the problem, then creating a clear path to a solution.

• "Hope is a beautiful feeling, but friends, it's not a great strategy."

• "Your strategy is to let them know what your expectation is. That's your responsibility."

• "Hope is not the strategy. Leadership is about the clarity, ownership, and action that you bring to it as the leader."

• Why relying on hope can be a financially and emotionally expensive mistake.

• The three key areas where leaders unknowingly rely on hope instead of a plan.

• A three-step practical toolkit for replacing passive hope with a proactive leadership strategy.

• How to build accountability ladders and create clear "sandbox rules" for your team.

• The difference between a leader who hopes and a leader who leads with intentionality.

Call to Action:

To celebrate our 100th episode, I'm challenging you to identify one area where you've been hoping instead of leading and take one bold step to fix it.
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