Perfectionism In The Home

Perfectionism.  Most would agree that this personality trait is not great.  BUT, if you are a perfectionist, you secretly, sort of, like being this way.  It’s kind of like being a “workaholic.”  We say we don’t like that aspect of our lives yet are inwardly proud of how much we can accomplish.  Perfectionism is, not only, bad for us as an individual, but can be devastating in our home.  

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PROBLEM:

1. See it in:
2. 1. Kids- upset if not perfect, performance anxiety
   2. Mom/Wives- Clean house, fixation on kid’s performance, behavior, and dress, can’t leave work at work
   3. Dad/Husbands- How things look, Sports, irritation as substandard behavior/dress…
3. Hold double standard
4. You're constantly evaluating yourself, and not living up to who you believe you could be. This induces shame. 
5. Procrastination can simply be thought of as insecure perfectionism on steroids. 

SOLUTION:

1. To want something is good.  To NEED it is not good.
2. Embrace and sit in uncomfortable, unpleasant emotions
3. By grace saved, not of good works
4. Acknowledge it.
5. What is driving this?  What core belief?
6. Anti-anxiety tool is “Worst case” scenario 
7. Adjust your standards to just be “good enough.”

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