Peacemaking Practices

Dr. Sue Edwards Dr. Kay Daigle In this final episode of the three-part series Empowering Leaders to Survive and Thrive Through Conflict, Dr. Sue Edwards discusses biblical peace-making practices with Kay Daigle. Connect to the previous two episodes in this series: Get Ready for Conflict, Leaders; and Women's Tendencies in Conflict. Or watch all episodes on video. Recommended resources Oletha Barnett's podcast series, Fight Right: 1. The Nature of Conflict, 2. Biblical Resolution 3. Accepting Other's Differences. All are also available on video. All BOW videos on dealing with conflict Book: Leading Women Who Wound: Strategies for an Effective Ministry by Sue Edwards & Kelley Mathews Elizabeth Woodson's short Leader Tip: Tell the Truth BOW's downloadable resource list Timestamps 00:21 Introduction to the topic 01:40 Deciding whether to approach the other person 04:08 Emotional health is necessary 05:17 How to identify women who are likely unhealthy 10:36 Contents of Sue's book 12:06 How Sue weathered the conflict she faced TranscriptKay >> Hi. I'm Kay Daigle of Beyond Ordinary Women Ministries. Welcome to the third in a series of our videos on conflict with Dr. Sue Edwards from Dallas Seminary. You can read her bio online. We began by discussing Be Prepared for Conflict. And in our last video, we talked about just the Tendencies of Women—not for all women, but many women tend to deal with conflict in a certain way. And in this video, we're going to talk about Peacemaking Practices for Sisters. And I'm excited about really getting into how to take care of conflict. I'd also like to let you know that we did a series with Oletha Barnett that really gave the foundational principles that Sue's going to kind of take some of those apart in a practical way for us no—to how to make peace and what the Bible says about conflict. And so that really is important for you to have those principles you may need to go back. That would be the third video in that series called Fight Right with Oletha Barnett, which you can find on our website. And also on our Vimeo page. So, Sue, as you think about this, what are the peacemaking practices for sisters? Sue >> Well, of course, as Oletha said, Matthew 18:15-17 gives us some really three different steps and that helps us know that we want to master that. Although it's easy to make things formulaic when you're in real situations. It's not quite that easy. But still the principles in these steps that Jesus taught us are wonderful. Kay >> Well, let me ask you, before you even get into those, how do you decide that you need to go to one of those practices? How do you know when you have to sort of attack the problem rather than let it settle? Sue >> Well, I know when there's a possible relational disconnect. That to me, relationships are so important for the unity of the body—that we women work together, that we love each other, we support each other. So if there is a possibility, if I see that woman at the grocery store and I go the other aisle or I'm still having imaginary conversations with her three or four days later, then I know that this needs to be dealt with. Or if I even get a sense that she's hurt or she's avoiding me. And what we want to do is come together, but in a sense of a learning conversation. In other words, I want to sit down with you because you are important to me. I love you as a sister in Christ, and I don't want anything to interfere with our relationship. And so if there's anything that might, so there's ways to do it that are not so scary. So, a lot of times we hate this. We think it's going to get mean and confrontational. It doesn't have to. And if that person is a healthy person, then you come at it with that kind of tone of voice and hard attitude because you think there's some issue, whether they did it, whether you did it, whatever. I would go and try to work that through. And if they're healthy,