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Host Tara McCausland speaks with Dr. Jill Manning about empowering singles to prevent pornography problems through education, value clarification, and open communication. Manning rejects the narrative that “all men look at porn,” noting both genders can struggle and that “common” doesn’t mean healthy; she warns that this belief enables use and often causes individuals to abandon personal values or ignore discomfort around pornography use. She advises bringing the topic up in dating situations after some trust is built, prepping with other meaningful discussion topics, and paying attention to a person's comfort and authenticity around the subject of pornography. Manning explains pornography use is never a "small issue" because it consistently undermines healthy relationship development citing research linked to porn use and relationship dissatisfaction and increased divorce risk.

00:00 Conference Announcement
01:20 Meet Dr. Jill Manning
02:36 Why This Topic Matters
05:20 Jill’s Experience: Dating and Talking About Pornography
10:21 Myth: Everyone Does Porn
15:36 Clarifying Values and Ethics
25:23 Research and Real World Harms
28:40 How to Bring It Up in Dating
36:47 Why It’s Never a Small Issue
42:05 Part Two Teaser and Wrap

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Jonathan L welcomes Mitch H, who shares his journey from early pornography exposure to escalating sex and lust addiction marked by secrecy, workplace boundary violations, confession, marital strain, and cycles of relapse. Lasting change began when a sponsor challenged him to fully commit to recovery and to do whatever recovery required. Mitch describes humility as the key to sustainable recovery—“seeing things as they really are” and staying “right sized,” without ego or self-condemnation. He explains how humility fuels honesty, connection with God, and trust in a sponsor, making it essential to working the steps and maintaining long-term change. Mitch closes by encouraging newcomers to keep coming back and reassuring them that healing and freedom are possible.

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In this episode, host Tara McCausland interviews Steven Croshaw, president and co-founder of S.A. Lifeline Foundation, who is also her father. Steven shares his journey of battling sexual addiction, starting from exposure to pornography at a young age, through years of hidden behaviors and relapses, to ultimately achieving sobriety and long-term recovery for nearly two decades. He emphasizes the importance of rigorous honesty, humility, accountability, and the critical role of understanding and addressing trauma for relational healing. The conversation highlights the key aspects of long-term recovery: the significance of embracing compulsive, problematic sexual issues as an addiction; the interplay of lust and shame and what truly drives addiction; working the 12 Steps; developing top lines, bottom lines, and boundaries to sustain sobriety.

Real-life challenges and insights from both Steven and Tara provide a deep, personal perspective on the complexities and rewards of recovery.

Read Steven's article HERE.

00:00 Positive Sobriety & Keys to Long-Term Sex Addiciton Recovery Takes w/ Steven Croshaw
02:20 Steven's Early Struggles with Addiction
04:44 Marriage and Hidden Behaviors
07:02 First Confession and Continued Struggles
08:36 Second Confession and Realization of Addiction
10:14 Arrest and Turning Point
11:30 Understanding Addiction and Recovery
21:49 The Role of Lust and Shame in Addiction
26:16 Defining Sobriety in Recovery
30:54 Understanding Lapses and Relapses
31:47 Keys to Long-Term Recovery
33:31 Daily Practices for Recovery
37:52 Addressing Betrayal Trauma
49:11 The Role of Resentment in Addiction
53:55 Bottom Lines and Top Lines in Recovery
55:51 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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