Have you ever lost your cool over something tiny?

I explain why those moments aren't always about your child. We dive deep into the concept of the 'inner child' and how our own unprocessed childhood experiences can hijack our nervous system, causing us to overreact. This isn't about blaming yourself...it's about gaining awareness, taking back control, and building a more connected, calm relationship with your child (and yourself).

In This Episode, We Discuss:

• The "inner child": What it is, why it gets triggered in parenting, and how it can lead to disproportionate reactions.

• Inner Child vs. Adult Self: The subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) battle between these two parts of you and how it plays out in your home.

• The Power of Awareness: Why simply noticing your triggers is the first step to shifting from a reactive parent to a reflective one.

• Practical Tools for Parents: Simple, effective strategies to calm your nervous system and respond to your child with more wisdom and less rage.

• Find me on Instagram for daily wisdom and community discussion:Huddle Wisdom Parenting

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Until next time, take care of yourselves and the young people in your lives.

Hosted by Dr. Davin Tan Child Psychiatrist.

Exams are looming, and the pressure cooker is on. Not just for our kids, but for parents too. In this episode of Huddle Wisdom, Dr. Davin Tan shares how to help your family navigate this stressful time with grace, calm, and connection. This isn't about micromanaging study sessions; it's about shifting from being a performance manager to being a calm captain.

Key Takeaways

• The Myth of Pressure: The idea that pressure equals performance is a myth. When stress tips into anxiety, it hijacks your child's ability to think clearly. The brain's survival mode takes over, not the logical, problem solving part.

• Your Calm is Contagious: A child's nervous system co regulates with yours. The single most powerful thing you can do is to regulate yourself. Create a calm environment, even if it's just a few minutes of quiet time together.

• Reframe Anxiety: Anxiety isn't the enemy; it's a signal that something matters. Help your child name their feelings without judgement, which separates the emotion from their identity.

• Connection Over Correction: Your child's worth is not tied to a grade. Your job is to be their safe harbour and corner, not just their coach. Your presence, like making a snack or just sitting nearby, is often more supportive than any academic advice.

• For Students: The episode also has a special message for students. Don't look at the big picture, work in small chunks. Sleep is not wasted time; it's when your brain stores what you've learned. And remember, feeling nervous doesn't mean you're doomed; it just means you care.

Parents often wonder why I notice things about their child that they don’t. In this episode, I explain why that happens (hint: it’s not because you’re failing), and I share a simple Jedi-inspired exercise that helps you start noticing the subtle signs of safety, stress, and connection in your child.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• Why kids act differently with me than with you.

• How to reframe the “messy” behaviours you see at home.

• A 5-minute noticing exercise that gives you surprising insights.

• How tuning in with your heart, not your head, builds connection.

Links and Resources:

• Explore the Making Sense of Anxious Children course: huddlewisdom.com

• Follow me on Instagram: @huddle_wisdom_parenting