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Have you been pretending to be okay during your luteal phase just to keep the peace? After returning from two transformative weeks in Tokyo with my 16-year-old daughter, I've had a profound realization about how we sabotage our PMDD relationships without even knowing it.

While navigating Tokyo's complex train systems and immersing ourselves in Japanese culture during my luteal phase, I discovered something unexpected - the freedom that comes with authenticity. As I watched my daughter blossom in an environment that aligned with who she truly is, I recognized how many of us hide our true selves in our most intimate relationships.

The biggest relationship saboteur? Expecting consistency instead of embracing cyclic reality. When we pressure ourselves or our partners to show up the same way regardless of where we are in our cycle, we create an impossible standard that leads to resentment. During my trip, I practiced openly communicating my needs for rest without guilt or shame, which created deeper connection despite being in my luteal phase.

Other relationship destroyers include forcing "normal" communication standards during symptomatic days, holding rigid relationship roles that prevent vulnerability, comparing your relationship to others, and equating PMDD symptoms with your true personality. Each of these patterns creates emotional distance that eventually affects every aspect of your relationship.

What truly struck me was realizing how many of us fear showing our authentic selves in every phase of our cycle. If you're only showing your partner the "best version" of yourself, how can they truly love and accept all of you? This fear – whether of abandonment, rejection, or simply not being cared for – prevents the deep connection necessary for relationship satisfaction.

Ready to break these patterns and create a sustainable PMDD relationship? Connect with me on Instagram @DrRose_inlovewithPMDD to learn more about my monthly PMDD relationship counseling program, where we create customized strategies to help both partners thrive through every phase of the cycle.