Our Opinions About... Overexplaining

In this episode, we’re sharing our opinions about overexplaining—why so many of us do it, where it comes from, and how it often shows up without us even realizing it.

We talk about how overexplaining can be rooted in people-pleasing, fear of being misunderstood, or feeling responsible for how others perceive us. We also explore how overexplaining shows up differently in friendships, family dynamics, work, and online spaces—and why it can be so hard to stop once it becomes a habit.

This conversation isn’t about shaming the instinct to explain yourself. It’s about understanding it, questioning when it’s actually necessary, and noticing how much energy it can take to constantly justify our choices, feelings, or boundaries.

As always, these are just our opinions—meant to open up reflection, not offer rigid rules.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What overexplaining actually looks like in everyday life
• Why so many of us feel the urge to justify ourselves
• The link between overexplaining, people-pleasing, and anxiety
• When explanation is helpful vs. when it’s unnecessary
• How overexplaining can drain energy and blur boundaries
• What it might look like to pause, say less, and trust yourself more

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation wishing you’d said less—or wondered why you felt the need to defend a perfectly reasonable choice—this episode will feel very familiar.